My group of new masters students submitted their 1st essay. I explained in our 1st group meeting that I may take up to 2 weeks to return essay feedback to all of them. (I said this explicitly to manage expectations and as I've got a very heavy teaching workload for a few weeks). In the meantime, they have 2nd essay to work on - and they will be receiving feedback from me fortnightly throughout the academic year.
One of the students emailed me this, despite my explanation (one week after submission, so well within the 2 week feedback timeline I gave them):
Good morning [name],
I hope you had a restful weekend. Please let me know promptly about the feedback on my first essay, as I am now gearing up to write the second with only a few days - a narrow amount of time - to digest and implement improvements. All the best, [name]
I was quite taken aback and upset by the email phrasing/tone, I find it (subtly) inappropriate and demeaning, treating me as if he's my boss, and I'm at his service (not even senior colleagues/Head of Department etc ever speak to me like this when making a work request). It's also patronising as I obviously know he won't have much time to integrate feedback, as I set the deadline.
Firstly, am I overreacting or is this an inappropriate way for a student to speak to a lecturer? Secondly, any advice on how to respond would be very welcome!
I find myself unsure how to respond. A part of me really wants to explicitly call him out (I will be supervising him all year so I think it's important to set boundaries and expectations regarding behaviour/communication early on), but another part is worried that wouldn't be okay on my part.
I was thinking of responding something like:
Dear xxx,
As I very clearly already explained in our tutorial meeting, it might take up to two weeks for you to receive feedback on this essay.
Also, please note that it's inappropriate to issue demands to academic staff regarding how we conduct our teaching work.
Regards, xxx
Finally, it dawned on me that this student is a man and as I'm a woman (and early career academic), there might be some unconscious (or conscious!) bias going on - I doubt he would speak to my 50 year old senior male colleagues in this way.
I know I'm overthinking this but I mainly have experience with students who email in a considerate and respectuful way so this really unsettled me. Thank you so much for all for your input!