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How to negotiate such toxic competitiveness during my master’s studies?

I came to a university for my master's studies in computer science, along with five batchmates from my country. Since most groups are formed in threes, two teamed up with me and instructed me not to ...
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How to prepare to talk with my advisor about concluding our relationship before the defense?

I'm in the last semester of my PhD program and trying to pull together my dissertation, which has not been going well for the past 2 years. I shoulder most of the responsibility for this situation, ...
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How can I talk to the professor who has accused me of cheating? [closed]

My professor gave me a course incomplete because my lab3 homework on GitHub is very similar to someone else’s work. I would admit that I did asked former students from this course to send me the lab3 ...
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How can I work with a senior researcher who is less knowledgeable than myself?

This question is partially inspired by this comment on a recent post which says [...] Part of being successful is working out how to work productively with people who are not as good/knowledgeable/...
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What should I do when a coauthor suggests I fluff up a manuscript?

I have worked on a project almost entirely on my own with some input from my main advisor. Now I've drafted a manuscript, and I have received comments from my secondary advisor, who is also a coauthor,...
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How to deal with co-supervisor that does not contribute but requires coauthorship?

I'm a PhD student with two supervisors, one main PI which I has nothing to complain about, and a "co-supervisor" that had a long history with my PI. He was my PI's student, then post-doc, ...
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What are my options if a prof ghosted me after agreeing for recommendation letter?

I asked one of my professors, who I had a great relationship with, to write me a LoR for a fellowship. They're not my advisor. I had informed them of this 2 months prior to the LoR deadline. They ...
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Changing Ph.D. supervisor or changing (applying for a new) PhD project

I have moved abroad to do a PhD in Europe (in a STEM field). Currently, I am in my second year, and I have realised that my supervisor has little to no knowledge about the fields (simulations and ...
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Supervisor is acting weird [duplicate]

I am female and married. My PhD supervisor told me that I am lovely and he likes me. He asked me to go for a special date. I rejected as I am married though my husband is in my home country, not with ...
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Does my contribution to an editorial project merit a more formal acknowledgment?

For the past several years, I've worked remotely and without pay in an archive in order to assist a colleague (who has actually left academia) with a book project. The project consists of compiling an ...
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How to deal with an absentee advisor who is unreachable when trying to set up thesis defense

I'm a fifth year PhD student, which is the average year a student in my department graduates. For the majority of my time in my PhD program I've had an absentee advisor. He doesn't respond to emails ...
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What do I do about a professor that demands I publish a nonsense proof?

tl;dr: Skip the first two paragraphs. I'm a student working in theoretical computer science. I recently did some research where I came up with most of the ideas, but would regularly receive feedback ...
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What should I do if my group members are uncooperative after a warning?

I'm doing a marketing project with five members (including me), and I was elected to be the group leader. (I also forgot to say that it's a school marketing project) As part of the project, we made a ...
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How to foster a positive relationship with my team in a PhD program when I am older and have work experience?

I recently joined a PhD program after accumulating nine years of work experience. My decision to pursue this program was driven by personal ambition, aiming to refine my skills and engage with ...
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My supervisor published a poster about my (master) thesis without mentioning my name

Last year, I completed my master's thesis, and my supervisor expressed interest in collaborating on a paper based on my work, with me as the second author. However, the paper was never published, and ...
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How to politely ask for credits in a shared project?

I am a PhD candidate working on a component of a larger, transnational project that my professor got funded by an external donor. In this project, I am to work with two other PhD candidates and a ...
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How to manage inconsistent behaviour and communication from a supervisor?

I've been in this lab for a year (one year Master's finished and three years to go in PhD in marine ecology) and I thought my PI was great (chill, kind and supportive) despite forgetting absolutely ...
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It is rude to offer a teacher the study guide you made for their class?

Is it rude to offer my professor a study guide I made for their class? I throughly enjoyed his class but the class he is teaching is extremely hard being it is a premed requirement. I made a study ...
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What to do when a senior co-author is very disrespectful?

I am a researcher and professional in the social science field, writing a paper in the field of Computer Science together with CS colleagues to be submitted to an interdisciplinary journal, which is ...
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A colleague who ignored my request for a favor is now asking me for a favor. How should I respond?

I asked a colleague to give me a short tour of their lab to see how they have established it. Later, I followed up saying I was still interested in visiting their lab. They told me that they would ...
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How to Politely Decline Sharing My Research Proposal with a Fellow Student?

I recently finished my masters program and for my thesis, I was able to do something that not many people in my department had done before which was be able to conduct my research in Malawi (my school ...
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How to handle a students' complaint of my teaching method?

I feel an international student has a grudge against me and has complained about me regarding my teaching methods etc. during lectures and that I read off the slides which I really don’t. The thing is,...
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How can I work well with a fellow student whose speech I cannot understand?

I am a graduate student, and I am having trouble understanding one of my cohort mates. They are an international student, and it is often impossible for me to understand their speech well. They are ...
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How to deal with behavioural difficulties of other PhD students in the same cohort

I'm part of a first year PhD students most of whom either came straight from undergrad or master's (one student). Me and the other student are the oldest by age; a bit of an age gap between us and the ...
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How to respond to "you must be reviewer #X of my paper!"

Say in a face-to-face conversation, if a researcher says "You must be reviewer #X of my paper!", which is true, how should one respond? (I doubt this would be field-dependent, but I'm ...
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Ghosted by research colleague. How to proceed?

I am finding myself in a difficult situation with a research colleague. We worked on two projects - one currently with the journal and the other I am working on. She has gone completely silent despite ...
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Reasonable to ask 2nd supervisor for more involvement?

Next week, I will be meeting with both my supervisors (and the PhD course director) to discuss coming back to the PhD after a break. This, I think, is a good chance to voice a variety of concerns. One ...
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Second PhD after a not successful PhD and not being trained enough by professor [duplicate]

It is my fifth year of graduate studies in chemistry. I haven't had enough training from my professor and I don't have enough confidence to do even a post-doc. It is so close to my graduation, that I ...
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At what point does research criticism become academic hazing?

I've been collaborating on a paper with a junior colleague and a senior colleague, among others. The junior colleague is the lead writer on the paper and has done about 85-90% of the research. Junior ...
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Tricky situation with affiliation [closed]

I would like to hear an advice for a slightly complicated situation. I'm currently a postdoc working on a revolutionary project during the last year. During this year, my boss gave me a real hard time ...
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Do I have an obligation to tell my brother that his paper may not meet the standards of a "legitimate" research article?

My brother has written a paper which is essentially a survey of different techniques to accomplish a certain security related goal. He has also managed to present it in some conference. Unfortunately, ...
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Coworker hiding and stealing lab material

We found out that a graduate student coworker was hiding materials and even throwing them away when they realised they might get caught. With this they were not only stealing but also actively ...
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How to deal with bad undergrad researchers

I am a grad student in the life sciences. I have to mentor several undergrad students. One student in particular is just so bad and is always getting confused with protocols. He can't follow a ...
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How to respond to a professor asking for investment in their business?

A few weeks back the prof asked me to invest in his business. That is a significant amount for us, I do not understand why he is proposing that. I wonder what should we do with this proposal. What can ...
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Drop from co-authorship of manuscript

I was on a internship abroad. We started a topic that is also carried out by their other student. The new research was repetitive, so I decided to take my time and automate the process. I spent some ...
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How to respond to a professor not happy with me

I am in the final year of my bachelor and only need to pass one last course to complete my bachelor. The thing is I failed this course this year. Which means I have to continue for a whole other year ...
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What do you do with graduate students who don't want to work, sit around talk all day, and are negative such that others don't want to be there?

I have a biomedical lab. There are graduate students who don't do their work. Instead, both of them spend most of their time talking (not about their research). They also complain a lot and make a ...
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Shall I quit as a co-author on this paper?

I was involved with a physician in the write up of a unique case report. In May 2022 we started the project. I wrote the introduction, case reports after interviewing the patients, prevalence data ...
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My PI suggested that another postdoc draft an individual fellowship proposal centered around my original idea

I won a grant that I wrote myself, but it was awarded under my PI's name due to the rules that prohibited including my own name. Nevertheless, I was thrilled about it as it is highly beneficial for my ...
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How to kindly tell my supervisor that I will pursue my career in the industry?

I have received my MSc. degree at software engineering 5 months ago after a 3-year period of study and research. At the time of graduation, my supervisor asked me whether I would like to continue as ...
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How to deal with supervisor that changes prerequisites for PhD completion?

I am currently facing a challenging situation with my supervisor, which has persisted for a considerable time. I wont go into too much detail but she more or less thinks of PhD students as slave. ...
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PhD Frustration and plans [closed]

I have recently (a couple of months) started a Ph.D. in Germany in the field of reinforcement learning, which I try to combine with Optimal Control to give guarantees and /or analyze performance and ...
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I sent a Facebook friend request to my ex-professor, should I apologise?

Summary: after graduation, I sent my professor a friend request on Facebook, but didn't have response for a few days. I feel really bad and I really want to apologize. I just graduated and I have ...
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Can I request that my PI remove a poorly-behaving member from my research group?

I am a third year student at a R2 university that puts an emphasis on undergraduate research. This university requires all students to participate in an off-campus research project during junior year (...
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Is it wrong for students to report suspected / borderline plagiarism?

Last year I came across a student in our department (we are both PhD students) who copied a journal article in her final paper. To be sure, she didn’t copy the article word from word but did use the ...
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Collaborators have asked me to oversee another PhD student’s work, how to proceed?

A newer PhD student in my lab has begun conducting research very similar to mine. We are both working on a large body of research, and although the projects are similar, their research will ultimately ...
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Talking to a professor about a potential research idea [closed]

I am a Master's student in the US. I am in a course and was discussing an idea with the professor and TA for the course. Both of them seemed pretty excited about the idea and said it can become a ...
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How to survive a mean professor

I am an undergraduate student who has been conducting research with a professor for the past year. Unfortunately, I have been feeling defeated lately because the professor I am working with is ...
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Accidentally overlapping research projects

During my research, it appears that I have managed to stumble upon a new kind of solution for a problem that our lab has previously worked on. My classmate in the lab worked on that problem prior to ...
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Being pushed out of a paper by a toxic postdoc - what should I do?

TLDR: I am being excluded of a paper for which I worked, and I am not sure how to proceed. Long story short, I am a theoretical physics PhD student and I was approached by experimental physicists ...
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