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How to tell my mentor to be careful when discussing my work in progress around people I do not trust?

I had a very bad experience with a colleague and just do not like/trust him. (Eavesdropping, lying, ...) I am working on a project with my mentor, and know they shared information with the colleague I ...
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What is the best way to express my condolence to a professor? [duplicate]

I am a Ph.D student at the university. Every student has a favourite professor same as mine. I really care about and our student-teacher relationship growing stronger day by day. My professor really ...
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What should I do if my parents are forcing me to study a career I don't want? [closed]

I want to study biotechnology and become an engineer. I'm a straight A's student and as the eldest daughter I'm quite disciplined. However, my parents don't want me to study that career and are ...
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Does the GDPR cover reviewer blacklists, and if so, how? [closed]

I've served as an area chair for several conferences. Following the review period, the program chairs asked the area chairs to submit to them an annotated list of problematic reviewers. Mostly these ...
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First author doesn't want a co-author to read the whole paper

First author is a PhD student, as am I. All of the other co-authors are our supervisors. The first author doesn't want me to read the paper, because we are both PhD students and I might plagiarize (?!)...
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Should I keep my achievements to myself? [closed]

I'm a PhD student and I have published several good papers and achieved some awards and leadership position early in my career. I always celebrate my work but not boastfully since I poured in a lot of ...
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Reasons for a request for reference being ignored [closed]

What are the reasons that emails for a request for reference might be ignored or delayed in response, a long time after the deadline by an intimate academic advisor?
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How to Best Ask Mentor for Guidance

I'm not a currently enrolled grad student, but I am being adopted on as a "grad student" and am currently working on a project in pharmacology involving a lot of things that I'm not too familiar with. ...
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How to protect your authorship when trapped in “collaboration”?

Some time ago, my advisor has put me working together with some group colleagues on a very loosely defined theoretical physics project. From the beginning, I didn't like this too much because I felt ...
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Is it ethical to tell my teaching assistant that I like him?

I, a twenty-year-old female, have come to admire the graduate teaching assistant for my summer course quite strongly. I'm extremely interested in what he has to say, I always pay attention, never use ...
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Already in grad school, but is grad school for me? [closed]

I'm sure you've seen a dozen variations on this question in this forum, but here's mine: I've just finished my first year in a top US PhD program in the physical sciences, which I never dreamed I ...
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My colleague *may* have forged data. Any advice?

We are about to submit a revised manuscript for publication in a prestigious journal. This is a team work and one of my colleague performed most of the molecular biology experiments, including many ...
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Planning to start a Bachelor's degree during my PhD: what to say to my advisor?

I am a PhD student on my second year. My advisor is one of the most understanding professors I have ever had the pleasure to work with: he is also one of the, if not the, most important researchers in ...
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Two researchers want to work on the same extension to my paper. Who to help?

I recently presented a paper in a top-tier conference in a computer engineering field. I did that work as a research assistant under a Professor but now I am working in the industry. Two different ...
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How to interact with difficult supervisors after graduation?

I submitted my dissertation after several years of working. I will have my defense soon, and I reported what I am going to talk in the defense. However, my primary supervisor now refuses to give ...
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Physician assistant school rescinded my acceptance [closed]

I'm in a complicated situation. I was accepted to physician assistant school and was told I'm one of the most qualified candidates. I'm also a mother of 2 children (under age 3) and living with their ...
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How to deal with advisor drastically changing research expectations?

Some context: I met my advisor during my undergraduate studies (I am pursuing a PhD at the same institution). I took several upper-level elective courses with this professor, and received top grades ...
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My advisor talks about me to his colleagues in their native language [closed]

I am in a country where English is not the native language. I have some proficiency in that language but none of the team members know this since I have always communicated with them in English. ...
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Discriminated by senior researcher because of my ethnicity

I am working on a collaborative project between different parties, and there is a senior researcher who underestimates constantly what I ever propose or speak, and he tries to illustrate that I am ...
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Addressing a poor student-advisor relationship in job interview

I have a couple of interviews for research assistant vacancies in the next few days, but I didn't list the advisors of my undergraduate research project as my references, even though I added the ...
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How to explain that I do not want to visit a country due to personal safety concern?

I have been invited to visit a professor in a different country. I am very reluctant to go. The government of this country is currently under investigation by the UN for suspicions of crimes against ...
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My adviser wants to be the first author

I am working on a paper after finishing my Masters. I did all the lab research and writing of the manuscript. My professor was only involved to guide me throughout the research and read my writing and ...
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exam/teaching culture, possible abusive supervisor, research gatekeeping

Apologies for the length, I don't know how to make this shorter. I also don't know where else to turn for advice. :( I've recently started an MA in what promises to be a brand new humanities ...
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Polite message for my supervisors who do unfair things that would totally leads me to lose my study [closed]

I am currently working on finishing my PhD thesis. For about 3 years and 6 months of my study, I am suffering from the absence of my supervisors. She always travels for 6 months, sometimes two months ...
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To what extent do doctoral advisors “pick” their grad students?

I am just starting a graduate program in physics. I have read a few posts describing what a PhD student should think about when looking for an advisor, but I have a question regarding the advisor's ...
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Question on whether I have committed plagiarism (modifying paragraphs from an unpublished document sent as email attachment for PhD thesis)

Background My colleague and I are both PhD students (My colleague started about 8 months after me) from the same research group (and share the same PhD supervisor) in a UK university. We were ...
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Prospective supervisor wants me to do irrelevant videos as a condition for supervision. Can I say yes when I mean no?

This question is the reverse of Dealing with a PhD student reneging on an agreement to appear in social media, in which the student had agreed during interviewing to participate in social media ...
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How to deal with bad department chair?

As students we have the right to choose our semester subjects (for the new semester beginning in 2019) So we went send an email to the department chair indicating what subject we would like to take. ...
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Supervisor asking me to list a co-author who has literally done nothing [duplicate]

I am in the final stages of writing a paper to submit at an IEEE conference. I am the primary author, in the sense that I did most of the work and most of the writing. I have three other co-authors ...
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What can be done about a disruptive classmate?

There is a classmate who repeatedly interrupts the flow of lectures in various ways. We assume he has learning difficulties of some kind due to how he acts and because he has an assistant with him in ...
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Supervisor gets PhD student to do his entire job

My master's supervisor delegates most (if not all) of his work to his senior PhD student. Let's name this student X. X creates all the assignments, midterms, and exams for the courses this professor ...
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In the EU, how much protection do I have if I report an assault on myself by my department head?

I had a very ugly incident at my corrupt institute (I live in E. EU). In short, I was assaulted by one of the department's heads during my own group meeting on my own grant for daring to "back talk" ...
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Is it in the best interest of supervisors that his/her students publish their research results in top journals?

I am a math PhD student in a foreign country. When finishing my papers, my advisor (who is a big name in the field) always proposes me to submit them to a journal. The problem is that so far none of ...
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What to do when finding difficulty in resuming study?

Suppose, I completed two semesters and left a university two years ago. I want to resume my study again. I e-mailed a specific guy in the faculty/department/institute. I need a readmission paper from ...
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Etiquette for a female PhD student to reject her male supervisor's invitation to meet outside of work

The role of supervisor is a key role. The relationship between the supervisor and the students should be healthy. In this context, in India, there is a lot of difference between male and female ...
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Could I submit an abstract for a conference prior asking my supervisor permission about it?

I would like to submit an abstract for a poster presentation, I'm just worried that if I tell my supervisor before submitting, she might say I shouldn't do it, because she rarely wants me to be away ...
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My supervisor is making me work on something that is not my PhD project. What should I do?

My PhD project is a very little part of a big study that my supervisor is currently running. I am already four months into my PhD and I just have a 3 years position to finish my thesis. So far I haven’...
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How do I make the case to regain first authorship?

I am a senior Phd student in a very small lab consisting of me, my PI, and one other graduate student (one year under me). We began at an academic institution working on this paper related to my ...
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My supervisor does not want to publish my research

I just graduated from grad school and to say that it has been hell is just a euphemism. My supervisor has been a bully all the time and every thing that I did and didn't please my supervisor was met ...
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A potential collaborator and PhD student took a commanding tone with me (faculty) – how should I react?

Background about me I am an early-to-mid-career teaching-track faculty (four years of cross-curricular teaching experience in engineering) in the USA. I teach courses both at the undergraduate and ...
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What can a PI do about a low-performing postdoc?

This is a hypothetical question inspired by a flip side of the situation described here. Consider a PI on tenure-track position, facing tenure / promotion panel in a few years. The PI has just got ...
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How do I get over these (possibly sexist) feelings regarding an underqualified labmate? [closed]

Well, this is kind of embarrassing for me and I am judging myself as well. I have just started my PhD. And there is another woman who has started in the same lab as me. Over the first week, I found ...
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1.5 years later, how to make sure unprofessional behaviour by former mentor has consequences?

I was a post doc at a large US university for a year and after took another postdoc position in my home country. My mentor was a tenure track assistant professor. It pretty soon became clear that ...
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I slept with my advisor's daughter and she is blackmailing me now. What can I do?

I am doing a PhD in the US. I am in my mid-twenties and will graduate next spring. My advisor was very good and nice to me. He invited me to have dinner at his home many times and then I met his ...
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How to reconnect a relationship with a professor

Today I'm currently in my final MSc year, and I have finished working for my thesis. I am under supervision of professor X, which I find myself at ease and actually enjoy what I do. My field is ...
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prospective English doctoral candidate: advice regarding weird relationship with potential advisor

I recently got my BA in English from a top 10 university and am planning on re-applying to the same school's doctoral program this fall. (For personal reasons, I'm constrained to programs within a ...
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Can a master's student change their mind and look for a different project?

I am a fairly new Master's student (~3 months). A few weeks ago, my supervisor told me to work on project X. I reluctantly agreed to work on X because I was not able to come up with any alternatives, ...
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Field-dependency of politics and public shaming in academia

I have recently been quite shocked to learn of the blog of an accomplished string theorist, which includes a lot of personal invective against physicists he disagrees with, as well as a lot of non-...
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How to ask a, probably angry, PhD supervisor for a letter of recommendation after graduation from uni?

I was on good terms with my PhD supervisor throughout my studies. After graduation, I gave a talk at a symposium and my PhD supervisor was in the audience. I was planning to add a few sentences of ...
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As a student, how can I negotiate comfortable and appropriate sleeping arrangements with a stranger for a conference?

I'm an undergraduate student that was offered a role researching for a grant. I was able to get authorship status on a paper and will be attending a conference for it later this year. The professor I ...