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How to tell my mentor to be careful when discussing my work in progress around people I do not trust?

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I had a very bad experience with a colleague and just do not like/trust him. (Eavesdropping, lying, ...) I am working on a project with my mentor, and know they shared information with the colleague I do not trust. How can I politely point that out to them?

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If you can trust your mentor, just tell them. Say it as it is. But not in an email. This requires personal communication.

But, if you cannot trust your mentor then you have a bigger problem than you state and need to find better guidance.

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This situation will require you to go see your mentor in person, be friendly and straight forward. Just let him know how you feel.


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How to tell my mentor to be careful when discussing my work in progress around people I do not trust?

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I had a very bad experience with a colleague and just do not like/trust him. (Eavesdropping, lying, ...) I am working on a project with my mentor, and know they shared information with the colleague I do not trust. How can I politely point that out to them?


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If you can trust your mentor, just tell them. Say it as it is. But not in an email. This requires personal communication.

But, if you cannot trust your mentor then you have a bigger problem than you state and need to find better guidance.

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I like the "personal communication" part. However, I do not think that OP distrusts the professor - the problem is that the professor may think the OP is oversensitive ("nothing bad will happen, don't worry") and does not take OP seriously. This is not a matter of trust, but of misaligned expectations. Also, the person in question may be well known or a student of the prof, and OP may not want to be explicit about it for diplomatic reasons. More care is advised, but not in terms of prof distrust. - Captain Emacs Nov 17 at 11:29

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