I've done most of my research during my Mathematics PhD with a single collaborator who is not my advisor. He has definitely served as a mentor and has been something of an unofficial advisor - even though he is at another institution. I started working with him at a period when things were not working out with my advisor and I needed someone to do research with. He can be demanding and our relationship has been something of a stressor - but overall he was good to work with. As time has gone on, the dynamic has shifted towards one where I am making the primary intellectual contributions and he is tagging along.
Last week he told me that he was resubmitting a paper he wrote with a different co-author. He said that for one of the responses it would be useful to use a technique I developed and had shared with him in an Overleaf a year ago and asked whether I'd be willing to write that up for him.
I assumed that by writing this section, I would be added as a co-author to the paper. The section contained some ideas that I developed which I was hoping to save for future work. Overall this was a pretty small contribution and I wouldn't say this technique is the most important thing I developed during my PhD.
Nevertheless, I was distressed to find that I was only put in the acknowledgements. I raised the issue with him over email and he became genuinely furious. We had a very tense conversation over the phone. Among other things, he repeatedly raised the idea that I am not appropriately "respecting the lines of authority" and that I should essentially just be quiet and accept his judgement on this matter.
He’d probably say that he feels I’m not appreciating the time he’s put in to my collaboration with him, that he has vouched for me in the past, that he adapted and amended the ideas I shared, and that he had suggested the line of work that led to these ideas.
About those last two points while it is true that these ideas I had developed came out of my thoughts on a paper he suggested I read, I personally don’t feel that is enough to justify taking credit for those ideas. He presented a very slight generalization of the ideas I gave and a slightly edited version of the proof I wrote which took about two weeks to formulate when I came up with it last year.
I’m very distressed. While I don’t consider this set of ideas to be crucial to my PhD work, I was very proud of them. But at the same time, perhaps I don’t understand how things work in academia and I should “respect the lines of authority” – to use his phrase.
I asked that he remove my contributions from the paper. He obliged but indicated that this was the end of our professional relationship, that I should be more grateful to him for his efforts in our collaboration, and that I need to learn humility.
Am I sounding unreasonable? Is this just how things work? I would hate to be inappropriate and I appreciate that he’s been a good collaborator but I also feel I should stand up for my academic integrity.
He seemed to have a lot of bottled anger and I wonder if he is annoyed that I'm leaving academia after he's put time in to mentor me with the hopes I'd be a productive collaborator. In our call he went on for some time about how "ridiculous" it was that I was taking time off of research to focus on getting a job in industry.
He's taking his sabbatical to work at this research institute - so I'm wondering if he's also annoyed that I'm not helping him further his career by making the most of this research year.