The situation is as follows:
1) I and supervisor dont understand each other
2) supervisor keeps the PhD group fractured
What it means ?
The supervisor is way off from my research area. But I know that happens. Unfortunately, he is the one speaking the most during meetings. To me it seems he want to prove himself as knowledgeable. This led me to ignore his advice, as it is usually inapplicable, since he doesnt understand my research. (I want point out, that I know this happens, that the supervisor may not be able to provide a profound advice, due to the differences in research interests. But what I consider a bit odd, is a lack of interest in listenening, as he needs to be the one that talks.) Therefore, I dont have a supervisor that would give a hand in research.
The other thing really bothers me though. We have never held a full PhD group meeting (there is about 5 other PhDs I barely know). Furthermore, there are "secret" projects among the PhDs managed by the supervisor, which fracture the relations and communication even more. This actually happens in very exclusive way. They just switch into their native language, right in front of me (including the supervisor), when such topic is discussed (I am international student).
For me this is both personal and professional problem.
On personal level, there is loneliness and the feeling of being different, as explained by the language exclusivity.
From professional/academic level, I have no ground under my feet. I need to progress on my own, without the feedback from supervisor or other PhDs.
How do I progress on my own ?
Do I search advice from other professors ? Do I try to connect with other PhD groups on my own ? Is this practically manageable, to force myself into other groups ?
Is it sustainable to manage PhD stress AND to put quite an amount of energy to "join" other people just to sustain myself from psychological point of view (this situation is very heavy on mental state) ?
And maybe on more personal level, is this a very bad situation to continue the PhD ? Does the academia really look like this ?
Lets say I would change supervisor/university/etc. What could I expect from regular similar supervisor, BUT that can manage and keep the PhDs in touch ? How much does this helps in PhD ?
P.S. This is a long term situation, lasting more than a year and half.