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To the point, I think I am suffering from the lack of the interpersonal skills and especially while working with supervisors. My character is quite good, I can make good connections and etc, however, I looks dumb while dealing with supervisor and I think this would leave a negative impression.

My new supervisor asked me to call herhim with Dr.X, and I felt so much shy to call his name directly, he didnot comment later, but I do think their actions said I am boring, dull, and maybe end hating me as happened in my previous PhD, my ex-supervisor commented once time, that he didnot like that I am using " kindly" in email, in the end , I feel I am not likeable even if I did a good work.

Another issue is my tone of voice shows that I am arrogant person, and this happened today, another senior professor had a facial expression which wasnot good, although I would like to deliver the idea, but I fail apparently.

I am so afraid to commit another inadvertent mistake and it seems academia policy is harsh. I dont know whether with my personality I can keep in academic world, I dont want to be an ordinary lecturer, I want to be a leading researcher in my research field, but given the facts, I am way off.

The question:Is there coaching techniques that could help me, I am very sensational, kind, but supervisors apparently see me dull, boring, and arrogant which hinder me to deliver my ideas and suggestions.

To the point, I think I am suffering from the lack of the interpersonal skills and especially while working with supervisors. My character is quite good, I can make good connections and etc, however, I looks dumb while dealing with supervisor and I think this would leave a negative impression.

My new supervisor asked me to call her with Dr.X, and I felt so much shy to call his name directly, he didnot comment later, but I do think their actions said I am boring, dull, and maybe end hating me as happened in my previous PhD, my ex-supervisor commented once time, that he didnot like that I am using " kindly" in email, in the end , I feel I am not likeable even if I did a good work.

Another issue is my tone of voice shows that I am arrogant person, and this happened today, another senior professor had a facial expression which wasnot good, although I would like to deliver the idea, but I fail apparently.

I am so afraid to commit another inadvertent mistake and it seems academia policy is harsh. I dont know whether with my personality I can keep in academic world, I dont want to be an ordinary lecturer, I want to be a leading researcher in my research field, but given the facts, I am way off.

The question:Is there coaching techniques that could help me, I am very sensational, kind, but supervisors apparently see me dull, boring, and arrogant which hinder me to deliver my ideas and suggestions.

To the point, I think I am suffering from the lack of the interpersonal skills and especially while working with supervisors. My character is quite good, I can make good connections and etc, however, I looks dumb while dealing with supervisor and I think this would leave a negative impression.

My new supervisor asked me to call him with Dr.X, and I felt so much shy to call his name directly, he didnot comment later, but I do think their actions said I am boring, dull, and maybe end hating me as happened in my previous PhD, my ex-supervisor commented once time, that he didnot like that I am using " kindly" in email, in the end , I feel I am not likeable even if I did a good work.

Another issue is my tone of voice shows that I am arrogant person, and this happened today, another senior professor had a facial expression which wasnot good, although I would like to deliver the idea, but I fail apparently.

I am so afraid to commit another inadvertent mistake and it seems academia policy is harsh. I dont know whether with my personality I can keep in academic world, I dont want to be an ordinary lecturer, I want to be a leading researcher in my research field, but given the facts, I am way off.

The question:Is there coaching techniques that could help me, I am very sensational, kind, but supervisors apparently see me dull, boring, and arrogant which hinder me to deliver my ideas and suggestions.

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To the point, I think I am suffering from lackingthe lack of personalthe interpersonal skills in academia whichand especially while working with supervisors. My character is quite good, I do think hinder me to explain my ideascan make good connections and etc, however, I looks dumb while dealing with supervisor and I think this would leave a negative impression. 

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I am so afraid to repeatcommit another inadvertent mistake and I want to make it successful this timeseems academia policy is harsh. What I should to keep the balance between formal and informal relationshipdont know whether with my supervisorpersonality I can keep in academic world, sometimes I feel so shydont want to be an ordinary lecturer, I want to be a leading researcher in my research field, but they dont understandgiven the facts, I am way off.

The question:Is there coaching techniques that could help me, I am very sensational, kind, but supervisors apparently see me dull, boring, and arrogant which hinder me to deliver my ideas and suggestions.

I think I am suffering from lacking of personal skills in academia which I do think hinder me to explain my ideas and etc. My new supervisor asked me to call his name directly without Dr, actually I always do respect people because I came from communities where I have to do that, and unfortunately, I couldnot do that, he didnot comment, but seems to be anxious from behavior which I do think interpreted in negative way, however, I dont really mean to annoy them.

I see many students can have informal relationship with supervisors, while I always do prefer to have a line and always show respect because I am afraid to break this line.

I am really confused because I do think with my behavior I am not being acceptable personally. I have been forced to leave a position before because of that although doing good work, and the ex-supervisor hinted on time he didnot like that I am writing in the email word "Kindly".

I am afraid to repeat inadvertent mistake and I want to make it successful this time. What I should to keep the balance between formal and informal relationship with my supervisor, sometimes I feel so shy, but they dont understand that.

To the point, I think I am suffering from the lack of the interpersonal skills and especially while working with supervisors. My character is quite good, I can make good connections and etc, however, I looks dumb while dealing with supervisor and I think this would leave a negative impression. 

My new supervisor asked me to call her with Dr.X, and I felt so much shy to call his name directly, he didnot comment later, but I do think their actions said I am boring, dull, and maybe end hating me as happened in my previous PhD, my ex-supervisor commented once time, that he didnot like that I am using " kindly" in email, in the end , I feel I am not likeable even if I did a good work.

Another issue is my tone of voice shows that I am arrogant person, and this happened today, another senior professor had a facial expression which wasnot good, although I would like to deliver the idea, but I fail apparently.

I am so afraid to commit another inadvertent mistake and it seems academia policy is harsh. I dont know whether with my personality I can keep in academic world, I dont want to be an ordinary lecturer, I want to be a leading researcher in my research field, but given the facts, I am way off.

The question:Is there coaching techniques that could help me, I am very sensational, kind, but supervisors apparently see me dull, boring, and arrogant which hinder me to deliver my ideas and suggestions.

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The Formality and Informality Relationship in Academia

I think I am suffering from lacking of personal skills in academia which I do think hinder me to explain my ideas and etc. My new supervisor asked me to call his name directly without Dr, actually I always do respect people because I came from communities where I have to do that, and unfortunately, I couldnot do that, he didnot comment, but seems to be anxious from behavior which I do think interpreted in negative way, however, I dont really mean to annoy them.

I see many students can have informal relationship with supervisors, while I always do prefer to have a line and always show respect because I am afraid to break this line.

I am really confused because I do think with my behavior I am not being acceptable personally. I have been forced to leave a position before because of that although doing good work, and the ex-supervisor hinted on time he didnot like that I am writing in the email word "Kindly".

I am afraid to repeat inadvertent mistake and I want to make it successful this time. What I should to keep the balance between formal and informal relationship with my supervisor, sometimes I feel so shy, but they dont understand that.