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Don't send the email. Based on my experience, I predict that the anonymous email you are proposing to send almost certainly won't tell the speaker any information she does not already know, only something that she is either in denial about or that she is (for whatever mysterious reasons of human psychology) helpless or unwilling to do anything about. On the other hand, especially due to its anonymous nature, the email is quite likely to come across as hurtful and to cause her negative feelings such as guilt, self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, etc. that would make her situation worse without leading to any progress towards resolving her accent/language problem.

There is a time and a place to offer people negative feedback that might help them improve, e.g., when such feedback is directly solicited from you or when you are a person whose job it is to offer such feedback. That time and place is not your current situation. So don't.

Don't send the email. Based on my experience, I predict that the anonymous email you are proposing to send almost certainly won't tell the speaker any information she does not already know, only something that she is either in denial about or that she is (for whatever mysterious reasons of human psychology) helpless or unwilling to do anything about. On the other hand, especially due to its anonymous nature, the email is quite likely to come across as hurtful and to cause her negative feelings such as guilt, self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, etc., that would make her situation worse without leading to any progress towards resolving her accent/language problem.

There is a time and a place to offer people negative feedback that might help them improve, e.g., when such feedback is directly solicited from you or when you are a person whose job it is to offer such feedback. That time and place is not your current situation. So don't.

Don't send the email. English-shaming is no better than fat-shaming or any other type of shaming, and is no more likely to cause a person who behaves in ways that aren't necessarily ideal for them to change their behavior, but on the other hand is quite likely to cause negative feelings such as guilt, self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, etc., that will likely make that person's situation only worse than it already is.

There is a time and a place to offer people negative feedback that might help them improve, e.g., when such feedback is directly solicited from you or when you are a person whose job it is to offer such feedback. That time and place is not your current situation. So don't.

Don't send the email. Based on my experience, I predict that the anonymous email you are proposing to send almost certainly won't tell the speaker any information she does not already know, only something that she is either in denial about or that she is (for whatever mysterious reasons of human psychology) helpless or unwilling to do anything about. On the other hand, especially due to its anonymous nature, the email is quite likely to come across as hurtful and to cause her negative feelings such as guilt, self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, etc. that would make her situation worse without leading to any progress towards resolving her accent/language problem.

There is a time and a place to offer people negative feedback that might help them improve, e.g., when such feedback is directly solicited from you or when you are a person whose job it is to offer such feedback. That time and place is not your current situation. So don't.

Don't send the email. English-shaming is no better than fat-shaming or any other type of shaming, and no more likely to cause a person who behaves in ways that aren't necessarily ideal for them to change their behavior, but on the other hand is quite likely to cause negative feelings such as guilt, self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, etc., that will likely make that person's situation only worse than it already is.

There is a time and a place to offer people negative feedback that might help them improve, e.g., when such feedback is directly solicited from you or when you are a person whose job it is to offer such feedback. That time and place is not your current situation. So don't.

Don't send the email. English-shaming is no better than fat-shaming or any other type of shaming, and is no more likely to cause a person who behaves in ways that aren't necessarily ideal for them to change their behavior, but on the other hand is quite likely to cause negative feelings such as guilt, self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, etc., that will likely make that person's situation only worse than it already is.

There is a time and a place to offer people negative feedback that might help them improve, e.g., when such feedback is directly solicited from you or when you are a person whose job it is to offer such feedback. That time and place is not your current situation. So don't.