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| S Aug 1, 2017 at 15:46 | history | suggested | Stevoisiak | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Aug 1, 2017 at 11:54 | comment | added | Dan Romik | @DavidRicherby I meant "worry about yourself", as opposed to worrying so much about what others think about him that it prevents him from doing what makes him happy. | |
| Aug 1, 2017 at 10:20 | comment | added | David Richerby | "My advice is, go out there and have fun, worry about yourself and don't care too much what other people think." Do you mean "don't worry about yourself"? | |
| Jul 31, 2017 at 18:05 | comment | added | Wayne Werner | At my university (at least according to one professor) dating (even their current student) wasn't verboten, just would be frowned upon. | |
| Jul 31, 2017 at 14:59 | comment | added | corsiKa | Reminds me of a crude bash.org quote where one friend was caught buying a rather embarrassing item and laughs were had until they realized to have caught someone there, the witness had to also be at that place. Anyone who gives you flack for being on the dating site, well, they also were on that same dating site! | |
| Jul 31, 2017 at 6:53 | comment | added | Dan Romik | @PVAL good to know, thanks. I see that, as with the other examples given, this one also only applies to professors dating undergraduates. It's interesting in any case. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 23:52 | comment | added | PVAL | @MartinArgerami and at Dan: Here is the the policy statement. policies.utexas.edu/policies/consensual-relationships There is an exception given to legal marriages. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 22:38 | comment | added | Martin Argerami | @PVAL: what would your university do to me, that I'm married to a student? Fire me? Ask me to divorce? Expel the student? I'm really curious about the implementation of these kind of measures. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 22:36 | comment | added | Martin Argerami | @scaaahu: if that's the logic, I guess professors' children cannot attend the university? Because the kids could choose to go to their parent's class? What we do in more reasonable places is to declare conflicts of interest, and take measures to avoid them. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 20:19 | history | edited | Dan Romik | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jul 30, 2017 at 19:53 | comment | added | Ellen Spertus | Many schools in the US do ban romantic relations/sex between students and faculty. bostonglobe.com/metro/2015/02/05/… psmag.com/education/… | |
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| Jul 30, 2017 at 12:33 | comment | added | Nobody | I know what you're saying. The issue is the professors enjoy high respect, but bound by more moral rules. Same for politicians. (At least in my location). An elected official had endured a lot scolding and curses just because he and his assistant were caught going into a motel recently. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 12:27 | comment | added | Dan Romik | @scaaahu by the way, according to your logic, "dating a random person you met online" could become "dating a person who is your employee" if you are anybody who manages people, since the person could at some later time be hired by your company and assigned to your group. (And if today you are not a manager, well, you could become one in the future couldn't you...?) So, basically if we worried too much about this sort of thing, no two people should ever be allowed to date. That's clearly absurd. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 12:20 | comment | added | Dan Romik | @scaaahu indeed, that's why policies exist to make sure ethical principles aren't compromised in the sort of situation you describe. I don't have space to explain the details here - basically either the student couldn't take the class or the professor wouldn't be allowed to teach it - but the point is reasonable universities find ways of handling this problem without imposing draconian blanket prohibitions (which I'm guessing may be illegal in the US) preventing professors from entering consensual romantic relationship with a large group of people over whom they have no supervisory authority. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 12:11 | comment | added | Nobody | "dating a person who happens to be a student at your university".could become "dating a person who is a student in a class you're teaching" because the student could choose to enroll in your class after she had a date with you. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 11:49 | comment | added | Dan Romik | @scaaahu thanks, that's interesting. Indeed I would argue that, and moreover I would argue that dating a student says nothing about how high your moral standards are or aren't. And to make sure we're talking about the same thing, when I say "dating a student" I mean "dating a person who happens to be a student at your university". That's very different from "dating a person who is a student in a class you're teaching", which is a no-no also in the U.S. and probably most other developed countries. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 11:30 | comment | added | Nobody | I don't know where @PVAL is located. I do know that professors dating students is a big no no in Taiwan. I don't know if there is law prohibiting it. But, everybody, professors and students, would think you're a bad professor. Generally speaking, professors earn very high respect here and also expected to have a very high moral standard. You can argue that dating a student is not a crime. Still, ... | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 10:28 | comment | added | Dan Romik | @PVAL interesting (and surprising). Would you mind telling us which university you're at, or at least which country? | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 8:56 | comment | added | PVAL | @DanRomik While you (or in large part society) might not have a problem with the OP dating students, different institutions have very different rules regarding this. This year my university recently passed a recent blanket rule barring any such fraternization. | |
| Jul 30, 2017 at 3:22 | history | edited | Dan Romik | CC BY-SA 3.0 |
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| Jul 30, 2017 at 3:16 | history | answered | Dan Romik | CC BY-SA 3.0 |