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I want to just address one aspect of the question, which is:

I just want to get married, and have weekends and evenings off, and chill out and play board games, and have nice conversations with friends, and have time to exercise and eat good food, and partake in hobbies, and read books and play computer games and watch movies and write a novel or two. Stuff I used to do as a kid, that I can't do as a grad student.

I did everything on this list on a regular basis while a PhD student in a top-level program. (Except for the married bit, I only did that once.) This is kind of piling on at this point, but if you are in a program in which you need to put in 80-hour work weeks to be successful, you are in the wrong program. There's always going to be other people who work insanely hard, but unless your entire life revolves around an all-encompassing need to be the best scientist of them all, you shouldn't. Work hard during the day, and at the end of it go home and have a life.

Edit: Misread this the first time. I read tons of novels but wrote zero.

I want to just address one aspect of the question, which is:

I just want to get married, and have weekends and evenings off, and chill out and play board games, and have nice conversations with friends, and have time to exercise and eat good food, and partake in hobbies, and read books and play computer games and watch movies and write a novel or two. Stuff I used to do as a kid, that I can't do as a grad student.

I did everything on this list on a regular basis while a PhD student in a top-level program. (Except for the married bit, I only did that once.) This is kind of piling on at this point, but if you are in a program in which you need to put in 80-hour work weeks to be successful, you are in the wrong program. There's always going to be other people who work insanely hard, but unless your entire life revolves around an all-encompassing need to be the best scientist of them all, you shouldn't. Work hard during the day, and at the end of it go home and have a life.

I want to just address one aspect of the question, which is:

I just want to get married, and have weekends and evenings off, and chill out and play board games, and have nice conversations with friends, and have time to exercise and eat good food, and partake in hobbies, and read books and play computer games and watch movies and write a novel or two. Stuff I used to do as a kid, that I can't do as a grad student.

I did everything on this list on a regular basis while a PhD student in a top-level program. (Except for the married bit, I only did that once.) This is kind of piling on at this point, but if you are in a program in which you need to put in 80-hour work weeks to be successful, you are in the wrong program. There's always going to be other people who work insanely hard, but unless your entire life revolves around an all-encompassing need to be the best scientist of them all, you shouldn't. Work hard during the day, and at the end of it go home and have a life.

Edit: Misread this the first time. I read tons of novels but wrote zero.

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I want to just address one aspect of the question, which is:

I just want to get married, and have weekends and evenings off, and chill out and play board games, and have nice conversations with friends, and have time to exercise and eat good food, and partake in hobbies, and read books and play computer games and watch movies and write a novel or two. Stuff I used to do as a kid, that I can't do as a grad student.

I did everything on this list on a regular basis while a PhD student in a top-level program. (Except for the married bit, I only did that once.) This is kind of piling on at this point, but if you are in a program in which you need to put in 80-hour work weeks to be successful, you are in the wrong program. There's always going to be other people who work insanely hard, but unless your entire life revolves around an all-encompassing need to be the best scientist of them all, you shouldn't. Work hard during the day, and at the end of it go home and have a life.