Timeline for Professor behaving oddly, but I don't want to persecute him
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| Sep 3, 2019 at 3:22 | comment | added | dcacat | @webDev_gradStudent In a way I'm glad to know the prof is not Indian. ;) But either way, you need to do something. Holding people accountable for their actions is not "persecution", no matter their political affiliation/ideology. | |
| Sep 3, 2019 at 3:21 | comment | added | dcacat | @einpoklum When it comes to discrimination on the basis of gender, there is no room for political correctness. Sorry. This is personal. My own father prevented me from studying computer science because of my gender. I was lucky to be allowed to attend college at all. As an Indian woman, my life has been all but ruined by harassment and assault at the hands of Indian men. The fact that 90% of the men who have mistreated me are Indian, while Indians are less than 10% of the overall population, gives me justification to link the behavior to the culture (not the race or ethnicity - the culture). | |
| Sep 3, 2019 at 3:18 | comment | added | dcacat | @Buffy Plenty of men know that what they are doing is wrong, but they do it anyway. The difference is that most Indian American men, in my experience with family and friends, do not know that what they are doing is wrong. I was thinking perhaps the professor isn't approaching this with malice. | |
| Aug 31, 2019 at 2:08 | comment | added | webDev_gradStudent | I am Indian American too. Professor is a blond white guy with no accent, so I assume he is American. I don't think race is a factor here. | |
| Aug 30, 2019 at 18:25 | comment | added | Noldorin | @dcacat Good point about being culturally aware. It may or may not be relevant (and this phenomenon certainly isn't unique to Indian culture I'd think), but while we can't and shouldn't take away the blame from this professor, it could at least explain why he's doing this – not fully conscious of its inappropriateness – and serve as an extra reason not to "throw the rulebook" at him right away. I have always found in my experience that giving people the benefit of the doubt about their intentions until they clearly prove otherwise is wise and fruitful. | |
| Aug 30, 2019 at 18:21 | comment | added | einpoklum | Umm, there are hundreds of millions of Indians. The fact that men in your family - or even in your social surroundings - behave this way is not reason enough to link an indian origin to this behavior. Not downvoting, just saying. | |
| Aug 30, 2019 at 16:56 | comment | added | Buffy | Think about what you are saying. How many men, behaving badly, will not believe that what they are doing is permitted to them and normal? How many will admit that they are acting with bad intent? Their country of origin and their overall culture is not the villain here. | |
| Aug 30, 2019 at 16:44 | comment | added | dcacat | @Buffy It does have something to do with it, because if he's Indian, odds are he doesn't mean any harm by it. He's behaving that way not out of malice but because he thinks it's normal. Of course, the result is harmful if the asker isn't able to get feedback on her assignments or what not, so she still needs to act. But the intention is entirely non-malicious on the professor's part if it's his cultural norm. Let's not pretend all cultures are the same. | |
| Aug 30, 2019 at 15:45 | comment | added | Buffy | I don't think that being from India has anything to do with it here. There are plenty of men for around the world who behave badly and condescendingly toward women and others. Likewise, there are plenty of Indian men who behave properly. | |
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