Timeline for Is it appropriate to drop by another university's professor's lecture to talk about research afterwards?
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| Feb 28, 2018 at 21:22 | comment | added | Monica Apologists Get Out | A lot of stalkers don't perceive themselves as stalkers because they have a 'perfectly reasonable' justification in their minds. It's really easy to set off alarm bells, because it's really important to nip stalkerish behavior in the bud immediately. If you figure out someone's schedule without their input, then show up out of the blue, regardless of justification, you're going to get marched away by security sooner or later. | |
| Feb 28, 2018 at 16:03 | comment | added | nengel | Reacting to one's attempts at communication being ignored by showing up at someone's workplace is a really common pattern in stalking. I'm not saying this one thing automatically makes you a stalker, I'm just saying this is a thing stalkers also do and you don't want to even raise the question in anyone's mind. | |
| Feb 28, 2018 at 12:09 | comment | added | David Richerby | @NajibIdrissi I completely agree that the asker shouldn't go the professor's lecture; I'm just disputing the use of the word "stalker" to describe that act. Show up repeatedly outside her lectures and you're absolutely a stalker, but that's not what the asker is proposing. | |
| Feb 28, 2018 at 10:26 | comment | added | user9646 | @DavidRicherby Put yourself in the shoes of the professor. Two emails from a complete stranger, no answer is given, then the stranger drops by the professor's workplace uninvited and wants to talk right now because the professor did not answer the emails? Yeah, that's not good. I for one would be creeped out. | |
| Feb 27, 2018 at 16:28 | comment | added | David Richerby | I think "stalker territory" is a massive overstatement. But I agree with the general point that tracking somebody down at their lecture is excessive. Why not just go to their office, for example? | |
| Feb 27, 2018 at 9:04 | history | answered | nengel | CC BY-SA 3.0 |