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Is it ethical to tell my teaching assistant that I like him?

Wait until after the course is over and grades are in: don't put your TA in a difficult situation. After that, you are just two adult humans, assuming you won't have any other courses with this TA.
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How to deal with a student who most likely has a mental condition, and keeps arguing with me in class?

I have responsibility for students with alternate needs within a Computer Science department and thus have professional experience of the situation you describe. It is not uncommon in our subject. ...
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What negative consequences could there be from dating a former student (as a young academic)?

There are professional/ethical rules at many universities relating to dating between students and staff, but these do not extend to imposing a permanent moratorium on dating between people who have ...
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Should I tutor a student who I know has cheated on their homework?

Whether their cheating should impact your role as a tutor is not the primary issue here, so I'll set it aside. You should not be tutoring a student for additional money when you are also grading that ...
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My math students consider me a harsh grader. Is my teaching attitude wrong?

Yes, you do seem to have a bad attitude toward it, but I suspect you knew that. I would suggest trying as hard as you can to put yourself in their shoes: Not everyone enjoys the same things you do. ...
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What to do with a student coming to class in revealing clothing, to the degree that it disrupts the teaching environment?

Unlike my answer here, your problem does not seem to be about the clothing, but rather the disruption. Assuming the student is not breaking the university dress code, then it is not her who is ...
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What to do with a student coming to class in revealing clothing, to the degree that it disrupts the teaching environment?

Ignore everyone here and ask your higher-ups what to do. Then do it. And get at least some of the responses in writing so that you can point back to them. I believe this is the only correct and safe ...
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What to do with a student coming to class in revealing clothing, to the degree that it disrupts the teaching environment?

The best thing you can do is the escalate the problem to your superiors, which you already did. Note that in disputes like this (when there is a bad and a worse choice, like you being accused of ...
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I've developed a close relationship with my past graduate teaching assistant, and I'm very interested in her: is it appropriate to pursue this?

Since you are not working under her supervision right now, then assuming you are both adults, you are in the clear ethically, legally, and university policy-wise. The only real caveats are that if you ...
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How to deal with a student who most likely has a mental condition, and keeps arguing with me in class?

As a fellow TA, I would definitely recommend that you discuss this issue with the professor in charge of the course as taking matters into your own hands without his knowledge (especially with special ...
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Is it ethical to tell my teaching assistant that I like him?

I'd like to add that there is another reason for waiting until the class have been over for a while. There's a phenomenon of "love for authority." It happens a lot in academia, where the instructor ...
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How to toughen up against hostile students as a TA?

Your responsibilities as a TA do not include being verbally abused or physically threatened by irate students. At the first indication of abusive behavior, immediately stop arguing or doing anything ...
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How to handle a student who will not accept that he is wrong?

Should I just tell him to talk to the instructor, and that my job is just marking? Yes. There's no point in getting into an extended argument with this student. The student thought his answers were ...
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Lecturer in a course I'm TA'ing refuses to give feedback on student assignments

No, you should not confront the lecturer again ("reopen") over this issue. That would not be an efficient use of your time. You've talked to the course instructor. She has explained to you her ...
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Should a TA point out a professor's mistake while attending their lecture?

It depends on the type of mistake. All mistakes must get fixed to make sure the students don't learn anything wrong. However, how to best fix the mistake depends on the situation. If it is a small ...
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What to do with students requesting deadline extension due to the death of a relative (but without a doctor's note)?

Should we just let these things go? Yes. Either the situation is real, in which you would be causing great harm in refusing and distressing the student further OR the student is lying and they get an ...
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Is it unprofessional that my TA texted me on a Saturday night?

Unlike phone calls, texting is seen (by most people) as asynchronous, like email. You text when you can. The receiver responds when and if they can. I see nothing wrong with the the other person's ...
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Should I tell students that it's my first time teaching the course?

Recommend not on the first day. I'm actually in exactly this situation for the fall term, so I was prepping myself mentally for just this issue. In my experience, expressing any uncertainty about the ...
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What's a good way to prevent students from saying I lost their paper?

First, get organized. You need a good defence. Make sure that you are not at fault. What I've done is to put student assignments in a folder and keep it entirely separate from any other papers I ...
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Is it appropriate to ignore emails from a student asking obvious questions?

Never ignore emails without first saying you are terminating the conversation. It's rude, and it leads to all sorts of problems. Even something like "come to my tutorial lectures and ask me the ...
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What is the best way to motivate teaching assistants?

I think the best way to motivate a person in academia is to give them a bit of job security, some funding which enables them to follow their interests, and a great team to work with. I am not sure if ...
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What to do with a student coming to class in revealing clothing, to the degree that it disrupts the teaching environment?

I'm somewhat surprised this hasn't been stated yet. Wearing a bikini to class is inappropriate. Period. Just as wearing shorts, sandals and nothing else would be inappropriate. The classroom is not ...
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Is it appropriate to give a gift to a teaching assistant for helping outside of work time?

I would consider that, in many cases, helping students "outside of work time" is often still under the normal job description of a teaching assistant. However, since you are asking the question, I am ...
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Professor refuses letter of recommendation request

I am sorry for your situation, no one likes to feel under-appreciated. That being said, it is important to know which battles are worth picking. Your professor was very clear in his answer, and I can'...
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How can I motivate the teaching assistants to grade more strictly?

You have a bigger problem than encouraging stricter grading. You need to provide consistent grading. Otherwise your scheme is fundamentally unfair. For starters you don't have an option to fail to ...
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What to do with students requesting deadline extension due to the death of a relative (but without a doctor's note)?

Demanding a bereaved student get a doctor's note isn't an appropriate strategy. (A death certificate or notification would be more suitable, but still inappropriate, in many instances.) Can ...
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What to do about past errors or inconsistencies in assignments I graded?

I could not follow a proper rubric to the bone. That's not unusual. Following a rubric is indeed difficult, even for people who have had many years of experience in teaching. And the rubrics ...
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My peers think I slept with my overly friendly TA - what do I do?

It sounds like this incident has run its course and there's not a whole lot left to be done. This can be hard to accept: we as humans have a real need for closure, and we like everything to be ...
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