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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

Never. It's a professional relationship, not a personal one. You'll see other staff occasionally firstname each other but that is between them. You'll hear some students and fellows firstname their ...
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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

This is going to depend on region, but in the US I'd wait until you get an email back signed with a first name, which can fairly be interpreted as an OK for a first-name basis. Otherwise, simply &...
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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

In contrast to some of the other answers, let me suggest that, unless you are a peer of the other person, that you stick to the formal address until explicitly invited otherwise. Don't make any ...
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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

This might also be a culture or language issue of confusing formality with familiarity. In a language with, for example, different pronouns for formal and informal it might be considered rude or ...
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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

A rule that works universally is to reflect back what's sent your way. When in doubt, go with formal. But like, if the prof uses your first name and/or signs with their first name, then it's more ...
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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

I was a computer science professor at two different west-coast universities for a total of nine years. Here are my thoughts on the matter: I almost never got a letter starting with "Dear". ...
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How do I politely ask someone to not copy from my lecture notes?

As I mentioned, they are a good friend and I can't simply be rude to them No they are not. You can be rude to good friend and they will understand. It really annoys you, you should state it. ...
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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

The "rules of etiquette" about titles in academia are highly local (both geographically and in terms of the field), and even then they are at best rough guidelines with a lot of variation ...
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When do I switch from "Dear Dr. X" to "Dear Firstname" when exchanging emails with a professor that I never seen before?

Your rule is valid. If I call you "Dear High" and sign with "Thomas", I am proposing to go on a first name basis. If I call you "Dear Ms. GPA" or "Dear Ms. High"...
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Is it rude to request a read receipt when emailing the professor?

Unfortunatly, this is highly subjective. I think everybody could clearly understand the benefits of a read receipt this is why all modern messaging platforms (Whatsapp, Telegram etc. etc.) implement ...
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Backing out after expressing initial interest in a reading course

This is fine etiquette, particularly letting them know as soon as you're certain just in case they were thinking of pulling together materials. If you're worried about being particularly polite, you ...
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Email netiquette for telling thesis committee member I've replaced

Before contacting her you should speak to your primary supervisor about the issue and ensure that your primary supervisor agrees to change the composition of your panel. You should explain the ...
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The IT department bottlenecks progress. How should I handle this?

As a 2022 answer, I suggest using a controlled environment for your software. For example, you might be able to lock down all of the programs you need with Conda (which, does not require admin install ...
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How can I go back to a PhD program I left for another?

It sounds like you are ignoring the harm caused - by you - to department X." I really didn't treat it like choosing a book. I did due diligence. Yeah, sure... you probably did. To you that ...
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How rude is it for a grad student to be late to a professor's valedictory lecture?

Could you please share your thoughts on this so I can make a better decision when I find myself in a similar situation in the future? If this is truly your question, I'd say you could make a better ...
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How rude is it for a grad student to be late to a professor's valedictory lecture?

As a British person who both gives lectures, and who is perpetually late for everything, I'd say < 5 minutes late: Don't even think about it. The host is probably still doing the introduction, if ...
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How rude is it for a grad student to be late to a professor's valedictory lecture?

Please don't worry about it. Missing the lecture was not a problem; these kinds of lectures are generally advertised to the whole university community and in particular everyone in the department. If ...
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How rude is it for a grad student to be late to a professor's valedictory lecture?

My opinion: You should have quietly entered the room and stayed at the back - if allowed. Do that next time. Or better, leave enough time to find an unfamiliar room. That said, I don't think your ...
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How rude is it for a grad student to be late to a professor's valedictory lecture?

However, by the time we arrived, we were more than 10 minutes late (the lecture would last for two hours) I'm not British, but 10 minutes is not that late. I would not find it rude - in principle - ...
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How can I go back to a PhD program I left for another?

The best way to do that would be to provide strong evidence that you have stopped being the kind of person who discontinues their Ph.D. program due to sudden "shifts of interest" or due to ...
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How can I go back to a PhD program I left for another?

I agree with Bryans assessment: you very likely can't. The only situation in which I could see myself taking back a PhD student would be a circumstance that is drastic and was out of the student's ...
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How can I go back to a PhD program I left for another?

If I understand you correctly you did not have a supervisor or a faculty member you worked with closely before you left. In that case I think your best chance is to contact the department, explain ...
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How can I go back to a PhD program I left for another?

You probably can't. Good PhD programs get lots of good applicants, and the program can only accept a fraction of the number they can accept. Your history now has you wanting to leave not one, but two ...
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Advisor walked in while I was complaining about her; How can I minimize the damage to our relationship?

I disagree with some of the comments above saying that you made a mistake. If you sincerely and objectively believe that she is really bad, then not complaining is making a mistake; though you could ...
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Is it petty to expect people to use your title in a professional setting?

I feel it is important to point out that the context here is neither academia, nor business, but government, and the creation of government reports that may shape policy. The creation of policy is a ...
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Is it “too much” if I ask to meet with my PI and ask her to sign my copy of her dissertation?

What would you think if a student was like this about you? Extremely uncomfortable. This is absolutely subjective; others may find this behavior flattering or appreciate the enthusiasm, but a non-...
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Is it “too much” if I ask to meet with my PI and ask her to sign my copy of her dissertation?

It never hurts to ask. I would not ask for a meeting for the sole purpose of getting an autograph, but it's perfectly reasonable to email a professor (especially one you're interning with) and ask ...
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Is it “too much” if I ask to meet with my PI and ask her to sign my copy of her dissertation?

Wait to ask her until you've worked with her and know better how she might respond. Perhaps that's when your summer internship ends in a few months. In the meanwhile, don't faint at your first meeting....
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Number of registrants for a virtual talk I organized turned out to be small, should I notify the speaker beforehand?

Thing to do now: cancelling the event would be very disrespectful to the 10 or so people that registered and made space in their agenda to attend to the lectures. Things to do in the future: never ...
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Number of registrants for a virtual talk I organized turned out to be small, should I notify the speaker beforehand?

It's a good idea to tell the lecturer beforehand. There's a surprising benefit of having a small group as if the lecturer is up for it, you could keep the session more interactive and personal. ...
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Is it “too much” if I ask to meet with my PI and ask her to sign my copy of her dissertation?

I've given signed copies of my thesis to my PhD adviser and to friends and colleagues who helped me with it as a token of gratitude. Signing books is also common. I see nothing wrong with you asking ...
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Is it petty to expect people to use your title in a professional setting?

When I worked in industry, colleagues with PhDs had "Dr" on their business cards an in email signatures. They were occasionally addressed as such by external contacts (even I was by mistake)...
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Is it petty to expect people to use your title in a professional setting?

There are three basic modes of referring to people: Formal: Mr. X, Dr. Y, Reverend Z, etc. Full name: Andrew X, Bridget Emily Y, Cindy Z, etc. Informal: Andy, Bridget, Cindy, etc. It's petty to care ...
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Number of registrants for a virtual talk I organized turned out to be small, should I notify the speaker beforehand?

It would be courteous to tell them, and it give you options. I think the one who refused to speak to a small group was acting badly. You can't control the number of attendees, of course. But if they ...
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Is it petty to expect people to use your title in a professional setting?

It is not petty, but it may set you apart if it is not common in your company. And what is the best way to raise this? The first step is to change your email signature and your name in the IT system ...
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Is it petty to expect people to use your title in a professional setting?

Outside of a university or a research institution, the only people routinely called doctor are medical doctors. And their doctorates are MDs and DOs, professional degrees considered lower than a PhD ...
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What is the best way to deal with cranks?

Introducing a crank to another crank is always a grand idea. They never have any trouble accurately diagnosing the other one. In any given field, there are lots of enthusiasts out there in the gen pop ...
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How do I tell a professor I don't find their research topic interesting?

"Professors" aren't arcane creatures who must be talked to in ritual ways. Just tell them as you would tell anyone else you aren't interested in an offer made to you.
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