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Questions about professional etiquette, appropriate interpersonal behavior, or social graces/norms

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How can I tell if I'm making enough progress when working remotely?

I am starting a PhD abroad, but due to the COVID-19 pandemic I cannot leave my country at the moment. My advisor has agreed that I can work remotely (starting later is not an option). While we can ...
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Is an acknowledgement worth putting in a CV?

Of course, the bread-and-butter of an academic CV are degrees and publications, and citation index is a primary means of judging the value of said publications, but it's also common for academics to ...
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How do you balance school and study? [closed]

I know there's many different questions that involve having a life with a healthy work-life balance but my question is different: I'm looking for a balance between my school life(high school) and ...
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How to publish superseding results without creating enemies

While working on a research paper with a coauthor, I found an unpublished paper in arXiv and discovered out that the technique we developed in our paper can be used to improve a result in the ...
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Unpleasant situation with a collaborator made worse by supervisor. Am I overreacting?

I've been involved in a collaboration project for the past year or so (the collaborator was the one who approached me and they were leading the project), the problem is that the progress from the ...
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How can I up my confidence level in my technical skills? [duplicate]

Let me paint a picture of my background in brief. I did my undergraduate degree in mechanical engineering. I was a good student (almost all A's) till my high school. However, I struggled a lot in my ...
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Does the talk count as invited if my PI invited me?

I'm a just-graduated undergraduate in Biology/Bioinformatics. In a month or so, I'll get to give a short (10-minute) talk at a major conference during one of a handful (5?) 50-minute workshops (I'm ...
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Is it acceptable to use working hours to read general interest books?

Every year are published around a dozen of books directly related to my research. By directly I mean on the same topics of my research, normally by authors I am familiar with, and potential reference ...
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Professor being mistaken for a grad student

This question is the flip side of Mistook new faculty member to be a student, how big a faux pas is it? I'm an associate professor, and apparently I look young for my age. When I meet new people at ...
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Is being socially reclusive okay for a graduate student? [closed]

I am Ph.D student in computer science and mathematics. I have published a few research papers and working on some papers. I am an after mid-stage student and I spend almost 90 percent of my time in my ...
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Would it be weird to cold email former students of a prospective advisor?

I was accepted to a PhD program, and the two professors I mentioned in my application have reached out to me to discuss research. Now I am wondering what is the best way to gather information on them. ...
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Is asking your PhD supervisor a basic question considered inappropriate?

I've done my Master's degree in Computational Mathematics. Then, because of several reasons, I decided to pursue my Ph.D. in the field of Quantum Chemistry. The problem is, obviously, my lack of ...
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Interpersonal skills, lab dynamics, and personality

What happens to grad students who are disliked by all other grad students in their labs? For background on the situation: I started my phd recently, and I'm in a lab with three other grad students, ...
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How to connect distant with senior colleagues in their last PhD year? [closed]

I have some senior colleagues in their final year of PhD. busy most of their time and in quite stress (as much any last year PhD student). we share a lot of history together. and also have some sort ...
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How to politely encourage academic integrity in non-academics?

To give context for the question I have volunteered to do some work for a local charity. The work they do is literally lifesaving and almost certainly something the government should be responsible ...
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Asking faculty up for tenure about the tenure decision

If I know a faculty member is up for tenure this year, is it appropriate to ask them for news about the tenure decision? If yes, are there norms around how to ask? I'm a grad student and still ...
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What programming language should a physics major know? [closed]

Know how of what programming language will come in handy during a physics major's research ?
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What should physics majors work on during semester breaks? [closed]

First and second year students are unlikely to get selected for major internships (right?). Given this, what can students do after freshman and sophomore years that will be useful later on. I thought ...
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Rehearse or memorise to improve my presentations?

This may be a dumb question. I would like to improve my presentation skills. So should I rehearse my presentation at least 5-10-20 times? Or should I memorise my presentation and practice it enough? ...
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Difficult student would dispute every grade in the course and now wants letter of recommendation

I had a student in one of my courses that for every graded assignment would come to me and challenge the grade given, even though I provided a rubric to show exactly why the points where taken off. ...
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What kind of help can I request from a terminally ill professor?

I am a student in Mathematics. There is a field I'm interested in (possibly enough to make it my main research area) which is not studied in my city. I've read a lecture notes on this topic a few ...
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Could appealing/advocating for mental illness/ADHD/disability rights count as volunteering?

TL;DR Applying for PhD and asked volunteer experience. I requested ADHD accommodations and am the first student in my alma mater to get extra time on exams. I didn't do it solely for other people such ...
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Indicate leadership/groupwork in research experience for graduate applications?

For academic CVs, should/how do/how might I indicate leadership/group work when describing certain research projects? Option A: Use words Project A, Subject X11, Date Group Description ...
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Post-doc priorities: “Laundry list” vs. “Research trumps all”

I am a post-doc in the physical sciences and I am finding that people have very different expectations of what a post-doc's priorities should be. Typically people are somewhere between two camps. I ...
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How should I respond to someone's research “elevator pitch”?

I am starting my PhD in cosmology in October of this year. I have already met some of the older PhD students and postdocs in the department where I will be studying, and I am going to be attending two ...
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Can I talk about articles I'm refereeing?

For the first time, I've been asked to referee an article for a journal, and a prestigious one. I work in Maths, so the article has been online as a preprint on arXiv for some time, and it was on the ...
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Advice for somebody who considers to join a PHD program in order to go to research about the possibly negative sides

A friend of mine considers to join a PhD program in order to go to science. I think she has a very idealized view of science and the prospects there. (I personally am somebody who left science after ...
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Co-authors either dismiss my ideas or don't understand them… and then dismiss them anyway

I'm a PhD student in computer science. I'm currently working with 2 co-authors in revising a paper for resubmission (I'm not the main author). They act very respectful and open to criticism, but they ...
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When is it beneficial (or politically correct?) to mention somebody's race/culture in an anecdote? [closed]

Today, I heard a friend mention an exciting conversation he had with somebody of a different race. He mentioned this woman's race several times in order to paint a more detailed picture of what his ...
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Meeting like-minded people for forming collaborative research relationships [duplicate]

I'm quite new at doing full-time research as a career. It seems that everyone in my department whom I talk with is focused not only on "their" research but also on various side projects with other ...
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Mistook new faculty member to be a student, how big a faux pas is it?

Today I was introduced in the cafeteria by a professor who I know to someone new by just their first name. Because of admissions season, I thought that the new person was a prospective grad student ...
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Is it unethical to take a photograph of my question sheets from a sit-down exam I've just finished if I am not allowed to take them home?

Last semester I've retaken a course and went through the exam. It was a sit-down exam and all students were present. All students are required put their possessions (phones, cameras, etc.) in their ...
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UK Transferable skills programs, where has this scourge originated and how to complain about it?

If you are part of academia in the UK, either as a teacher, postdoc or PhD student, you might have had to fulfill some departmental requirement for transferable skills. For those who have never came ...
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Applying for a position: Certificates and Supplements

When applying for positions in academia (I think the question is valid for economy as well) I add several documents to my application: cover letter/motivational letter, CV, publication list, PhD ...
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Evidence regarding the effect of soft-skills for academic success?

I was planning on giving a talk for undergrads regarding the effect of soft skills on success in both academia and the industry. It seems well-established that soft skills (along with hard skills) are ...
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How do I help minimize interruptions during group meetings as a student?

The project I work on has numerous members -- several graduate students, a couple of postdocs, and my advisor. We meet every other week to discuss progress and update one another on our status. Almost ...
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If you're black, how do you answer “Oh you're a professor? So you teach African Studies?”

In a comment to How do you answer "Oh, you're a professor? What do you teach?", @JohnSmith wrote I'm black so it generally goes "Oh you're a professor? So you teach African Studies?" ...
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What are the social norms associated with stealing free coffee? [closed]

Every morning, at the institution where I work, I attend a lecture series with on the order of 100 other students. The lecture hall is very central on campus, and large meetings are often held nearby -...
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Advice for a PhD… who is aiming for industry

In recent years there has been much talk of difficulties in the academic job market, and of many PhDs transitioning out of academia into the private sector. From what I've observed, it seems that ...
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Does one invite adviser / cohort / lab to one's wedding?

For a PhD student getting married in the middle of the degree, is there an established etiquette for invited your peers and/or your adviser to the wedding? Obviously, circumstances of the wedding ...
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Applying for jobs outside academia: when and what kind of jobs are out there? [closed]

I am at the end of my PhD. I am considering switching to the private sector and find a job in some company. There are two main questions I did not find an answer yet: Is there some professional ...
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Appropriate response(s) to a possibly rude 'off-duty' academic staff [closed]

In my university, students doing their Phd or Honours are regularly recruited on a part-time basis to assists with students in lab experiments. As a student in the Math and Physical science, my ...
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Can't handle the stress while being bombarded with questions during the presentation

I am a fashion designer student. I have given numerous presentations but one thing always bothers me: the level and frequency of questions by the questioners. By that I mean some folks in the class ...
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Emphasizing previous sales skill in finance PhD application?

It seems a rather odd thing to emphasize, but I thought my past experience as a broker could be turned into a positive rather than a moot point. Do PhD admissions committees take into account soft ...
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If a PhD student is bad in interpersonal communications, would he find trouble doing his PhD?

As far as I know, some research involves group-work. If a PhD student is either introverted, bad at interpersonal communications or both. What difficulties might they encounter?
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How to overcome preconceived ideas about social scientists?

I have the opposite problem to this question. Often when I talk to someone from a 'hard' scientific field I am 'taught' how statistics work or how programming works. It is a bit like being mansplained ...
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Socially acceptable to email a connection of a connection requesting information?

I'm interested in knowing the optimal technology/techniques to implement something (storing Lidar data in a database) in a corporate IT world. I have a colleague who recommended that I contact his old ...
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How to get work done on the weekends

As an undergraduate, I had a problem: I could work very efficiently during the week, but over the weekend I could get absolutely nothing done. Usually my plans for the weekend would include errands, ...
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What if you love your field but can't take the heat of academia?

Imagine "a person" who may or may not be brilliant in her field, but certainly has new things to contribute, some of them (in her opinion) fascinating. Imagine she adores her field, relates to it ...