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How do I make the case to regain first authorship?

I am a senior Phd student in a very small lab consisting of me, my PI, and one other graduate student (one year under me). We began at an academic institution working on this paper related to my ...
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Remind professor of email a second time?

Disclaimer: I know there are some similar questions around. However, I don't feel like the answers there suit this situation completely. This is why I am asking. Some backstory (not necessarily ...
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Supervisor insists on writing a manuscript, yet procrastinates on writing for years

So my supervisor insisted on writing a manuscript himself (because he wants to submit the paper to a better journal), but constantly procrastinated on the task for one and a half years despite ...
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Advisor wants me to come up with a research project. I came up with a project, but it's not with him

I'm in the second half of my PhD, and my advisor wants me to come up with an original research project. I also have a mentor (who is not a professor at my university) who has also been telling me to ...
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What to do if you have a troubled relation with your postdoc supervisor? [closed]

It seems my relation with my postdoc supervisor has hit troubled waters after an amazing start. Things started to turn towards the worse since our first publication together, particularly after I took ...
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How to avoid crossing my advisor if I write a paper as a sole author?

A bit of a controversial question here. I am a PhD student currently away from campus on an internship in another state (in the US). I left campus with my advisor-provided laptop and some dataset I ...
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Fellow graduate student discusses problems but gives no credit afterwards

I am currently doing research and I know a fellow graduate student who is very intellectually curious. Let's call him/her C. However, I feel that C has a very consistent habit for not crediting people ...
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Etiquette: Interrupting your supervisor having a meeting

I'm doing an internship as a high school student in a lab and am wondering about etiquette in research/life. The problem is that I interrupted my supervisor while he was having a meeting to tell him ...
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Should an intern who wrote most of a paper and where the first author contributed little request to be first author?

Background: A little over a year ago, I wrote a paper for an internship (during high school) at a major university medical center. My contribution to the paper was basically everything except ...
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Should I keep my achievements to myself? [closed]

I'm a PhD student and I have published several good papers and achieved some awards and leadership position early in my career. I always celebrate my work but not boastfully since I poured in a lot of ...
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How to tell advisor I'm declining a scholarship?

I recently won a scholarship that could (in theory) pay for the remainder of my time in graduate school. However, it comes attached with strings that I'm not comfortable with, and so I've decided to ...
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How to get past being tagged as overly curious and unfocussed?

I am in a reputed PhD Programme in Computer Science. In the prior part of my PhD I was focussed on applicative research but during the course of time I developed a keen interest in the theoretical ...
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Supervisor gets PhD student to do his entire job

My master's supervisor delegates most (if not all) of his work to his senior PhD student. Let's name this student X. X creates all the assignments, midterms, and exams for the courses this professor ...
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My adviser is hesistant about letting me graduate. How should I handle it?

I have seen the work of previous and current students and I have done a lot more than them, and my dissertations is about 60% written already, however, my adviser seems to not be comfortable with the ...
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I had a “quarrel” with my bachelor thesis advisor, should I ask him to be my one of my referees for grad application?

Last year this happened to me : I have asked a professor if he were available for being my graduate thesis advisor, now my bachelor thesis advisor is angry with me After that, I decided to apologize ...
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How to ask a, probably angry, PhD supervisor for a letter of recommendation after graduation from uni?

I was on good terms with my PhD supervisor throughout my studies. After graduation, I gave a talk at a symposium and my PhD supervisor was in the audience. I was planning to add a few sentences of ...
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Conflicts with colleagues as a postdoc - reason enough to start looking for the next job?

I have recently started as a postdoc at a well-regarded foreign university. I like the place and I have no particular problems with my professor (even though his style isn't exactly to my taste, but I ...
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How to deal with advisor drastically changing research expectations?

Some context: I met my advisor during my undergraduate studies (I am pursuing a PhD at the same institution). I took several upper-level elective courses with this professor, and received top grades ...
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Is it a good idea to escalate if my masters advisor is incompetent?

I would like to know whether to escalate the issue when my masters thesis advisor is very careless, disorganized and does not provide anything useful to me. I have started with him around 9 months ...
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How to stop weird labmate from staring at me doing experiments without damaging work relationship (too much)?

A few months ago my lab had a new member. Shortly after he joined I started hearing from students in other labs that he was being very weird, hinting that they were somewhat bothered. For instance he ...
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Discussing an unpublished approach of a former team member

I started my research as a PhD student a few years ago. I was assigned to researcher X's team and had to assist him in finding a solution as the project got stuck. However, X was not able to implement ...
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What should I do if I believe my former advisor is alleging to journal editors that I have copied his study?

I have been through many different things with my previous advisor. He wrote publications with my research proposal with his former female student after forcing me to give up the topic. Also, as ...
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How to avoid my advisor as a reference? [closed]

I had a bad relationship with my advisor. He told me evidently that he won’t write the recommendation letter for me in the future. Of course, I will not put him in my reference list in my future ...
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Discriminated by senior researcher because of my ethnicity

I am working on a collaborative project between different parties, and there is a senior researcher who underestimates constantly what I ever propose or speak, and he tries to illustrate that I am ...
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My supervisor won't accept that I won't stay in the lab for a PhD

I have recently graduated a M.Sc. I have agreed with my supervisor that I will complete the work required in order to make my project publishable (we have agreed that this does not entail any ...
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I can't figure out why my professor hates me [closed]

I now have Professor X for the third semester in a row. I have not interacted with him very much outside of class, but I am positive he used to like me. But now, I can tell that he dislikes me. I can ...
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How to deal with bad department chair?

As students we have the right to choose our semester subjects (for the new semester beginning in 2019) So we went send an email to the department chair indicating what subject we would like to take. ...
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Question on whether I have committed plagiarism (modifying paragraphs from an unpublished document sent as email attachment for PhD thesis)

Background My colleague and I are both PhD students (My colleague started about 8 months after me) from the same research group (and share the same PhD supervisor) in a UK university. We were ...
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How to avoid personal issues interfering with my Ph.D. studies?

Background My life had (and still has) difficult problems (chronic disease and its consequences: social isolation, anxiety, having to take extra measures to take care of my health...). As a ...
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How should I approach a situation where my head of department doesn't want me there?

I'm in my first year of a PhD programme in the UK. In this year of the programme we do a few short projects with different supervisors and then choose a supervisor and project for the next 3 years. ...
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Supervisor asking me to list a co-author who has literally done nothing [duplicate]

I am in the final stages of writing a paper to submit at an IEEE conference. I am the primary author, in the sense that I did most of the work and most of the writing. I have three other co-authors ...
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How to deal with a team colleague submiting a bad article? [closed]

My friend and I have been researching on a topic since when we were doing our master degrees. We were preparing to submit the next chapter of the research to a publication (we already have an article ...
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How much non-thesis work should a GRA do, and how to let PI know if I think it's too much?

I am a PhD student, and am being asked to do increasing amounts of non-thesis work. Some of this is general lab paperwork and small extra projects, which I'm happy to do and expect to lead to ...
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How to work effectively with unengaging labmates as a graduate student?

This might seem like a small problem, but one I've been thinking about lately, and was hoping for some insights. I joined a new lab around a year ago, and while things have mostly been going great, my ...
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What to do if a coauthor lies?

My coauthor and I work at some organization. After I started working with him, people told me that he allegedly took some data (used in the paper) from the organization without authorization (He was ...
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Resolving dependency on a senior colleague before deadline

(Disclaimer: While this question pertains to interpersonal issues in a working environment, I feel it is better suited to this SE than Workplace because of it being in the context of a lack of formal ...
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How to get out of a data use agreement?

My project is based on data hosted by a different university than the one where I used to work. When I requested the data, I understood that the work (and cost) to extract it from the database ...
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How to restore trust in a toxic lab environment?

A friend of mine started working in a biology research lab where several research groups share space and lab equipment. Recently the environment has become quite toxic as the people started to ...
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How does the tenure process work [closed]

I am curious to know how the tenure granting process works in the US. How much weight is given to research, teaching, and service. I have heard that a lot depends on your relationship with your peers -...
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How to inform an emotionally abusive advisor I don't want to work with him?

I am an incoming PhD student. Before I applied, I chose a particular school because it had a specific PI. (Of course, this is not a good idea, but I did not know better at the time.) The PI is very ...
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How do I communicate to a Teacher Assistant that I would like to fix our relationship?

I am a final year undergrad student in mathematics. This is an important detail as usually there are not many mathematics students, and even less in their final (because of the dropout rate). Because ...
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Is asking an editor for soft copy of his book acceptable?

A colleague of mine has recently edited a book whose subject I find very interesting (I know several of the authors personally as well). Unfortunately, like most things published in academia, the ...
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How to interact with difficult supervisors after graduation?

I submitted my dissertation after several years of working. I will have my defense soon, and I reported what I am going to talk in the defense. However, my primary supervisor now refuses to give ...
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Rescinding or deferring admission over a break up

I have a full ride for a grad program at a good school I've recently gone through an awful breakup with a girlfriend of 7 years I now want to take an extra year before going to school, for many ...
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Undergrad research with friends; one of them does nothing

About halfway through last semester, my professor asked me to do research under her with a group of people I had been friends with since freshman year. Dream come true! These are all people I already ...
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Already in grad school, but is grad school for me? [closed]

I'm sure you've seen a dozen variations on this question in this forum, but here's mine: I've just finished my first year in a top US PhD program in the physical sciences, which I never dreamed I ...
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My advisor completely ignores me what should I do?

My advisor became an assistant professor nearly two years ago. I worked with him for one year but did not publish a paper, and he thinks my progress is too slow. He asked if I want him to assign a new ...
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Is it okay to file administrative complaints about problems with the facilities and services in an academic settings? [closed]

Background Information: I am a doctoral student at a premier institute which is also a hospital. Most of the administrative positions are handled by professors who are also clinicians and researchers....
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Seeking a permanent job during a postdoc in a different country/continent: official and moral responsibilities

I'm going to refer two countries/continents as X and Y. I'm citizen of neither. A week back, I started my third year of postdoc in X (with no teaching duties), after living two years for my first two ...
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How to get specific guidance from busy advisor?

I need to graduate this semester, my master's project is far behind schedule, and I'm not getting the guidance I want from my advisor. How can I work with him to handle this productively? I have to ...