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What should I do if a professor says she doesn't understand my questions in office hours?

I am having difficulties in math, and every time I try to go to my math professor's office hours she always seems annoyed. When I ask her a question she always says something to the effect "I don't ...
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How to approach my supervisor when I've finished the task he assigned early?

Given that it's a very broad question I'll try to create some context: I'm in my first year (just started) and at the moment my task as PhD student is closer to learn the techniques and technologies ...
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My adviser is hesistant about letting me graduate. How should I handle it?

I have seen the work of previous and current students and I have done a lot more than them, and my dissertations is about 60% written already, however, my adviser seems to not be comfortable with the ...
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Trust issues with my PhD advisor, is it worth fixing or can I get out?

I am a math PhD student considering changing universities. I have suspicions that my supervisor has not been very honest with me since I told him that I considered changing universities (and therefore ...
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How to move forward following an unpleasant situation with colleagues?

I'm a recently hired assistant professor at a small teaching university. The department head has been successful in dramatically increasing student enrollment, such that our department is viewed ...
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What are some way to give praise to a professor without resorting to flattery?

In elementary school we are taught to give an apple to your teacher as a sign of appreciation. Obviously it doesn't work anymore in academia. I wish to maintain a relationship with a professor after ...
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As a postdoc, how to make sure I get credit for helping undergrad and grad students?

I am a postdoc, and I understand that my work involves assisting undergrads and grad students with their projects. But sometimes things go beyond mere helping into more like supervising and explaining ...
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How to tactfully request removal of my name from co-authorship?

I wrote a mathematics manuscript (see Extremely mild punishments for academic misconduct), and sent it to a professor, who then attempted to have it published after adding coauthors to the paper. His ...
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Dealing with a friend who always leans on me

I study Mathematics and Computer Science. I have a classmate who excessively depends on me when it comes to coursework . He wants me to explain definitions, proofs, share code, check his proofs and ...
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What can I do to prevent ethnic conflicts in research groups?

Many research groups are international. While I hope that academics are in general open-minded and tolerant, there might still be a potential for conflicts when researchers from different ethnic ...
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Conflicts with colleagues as a postdoc - reason enough to start looking for the next job?

I have recently started as a postdoc at a well-regarded foreign university. I like the place and I have no particular problems with my professor (even though his style isn't exactly to my taste, but I ...
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Can my degree be revoked if my relationship with my advisor sours post-defense?

I defended my thesis last year and was granted MS degree. After that my advisor pressurized me to work more with him and write papers. I refused after some time and my relationship with him became ...
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What to reply to your former supervisor that wrote that your paper “isn't worth much” before submission to a journal? [closed]

I am a recent Ph.D. graduate in computer science. In the last few months, I wrote a paper about an aspect of my thesis, with the collaboration of my former supervisor. We found a call for papers for a ...
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Having caused a lab accident, how to mend my relationships with fellow students?

I accidentally caused a fire in my department laboratory. The fire was not big, and luckily no one was injured. However, it triggered the fire alarm and sprinkler system, which led to some of the ...
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How to resolve disagreement with project teammates over which professor to work with?

I would like some advice about a conflict I am having in a graduate course taught by two professors. I am pursuing a masters (MS) degree in Finance and for the capstone course in the program, each ...
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How to deal with bad smelling (smoking) co-student

For a graduate project I need to work together with a fellow student who smokes a lot (every time we take a break); the smell is really strong and actually distracts from the work at times. Some days ...
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What to do if an audience member refuses to let you answer their question?

I was reading this question about famous people asking rude questions in talks, and it reminded me of a situation which happened at the end of my academic career. I would really like some advice on ...
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What to do about questions that are designed to embarrass the speaker?

I've attended a lot of seminars and lectures by now, and it's typical for the chair of the seminar to offer audience members a chance to ask questions of the speaker about their work after the ...
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High school student scooped by PhD student in the same lab

When I was in high school, I spent one of my summers working in a lab. The professor had a small lab, so I was given my own project, and made enough progress on it to publish a paper. While I was ...
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Should a postdoc talk about his depression with his mentor?

I am a postdoc in mathematics and I work in the US. Two months ago I was diagnosed with moderate depression. In retrospect, I can say that I must have starting suffering from it last spring, though I ...
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How can I make sure I'll get credit for my work when working with unwanted and untrusted collaborator?

I am taking a course with a major final project. I was looking for a topic when my co-advisor noticed this. He suggested that I do a project related to my master thesis, and I agreed since I didn't ...
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How do I express my disapproval of a marking boycott without damaging relationship with academics?

So as people have probably seen by now, the UK is stuck in a marking boycott, which has started to directly affect myself as a final year student. I have not personally been affected too much yet, ...
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How to comfortably interact with famous professors?

I know that they are "just as human as we are", but I feel somewhat uncomfortable to talk nonchalantly with the top-notch math researchers and professors in my department because of their social ...
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How should a teaching-assistant deal with an angry student?

This happened two semesters ago, when I was teaching-assistant to a class of bachelor students. The lecturer had such marking weights, 30% for teaching assistant class including all the homework and ...
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What do you do when your best friend cheats and has become top 10 in class of 250? [closed]

My very best friend cheats, not just looking over her shoulder for two answers, I mean full out cheats - raising each grade from what would be a D to an A. I feel very guilty for doing something wrong,...
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What to do when a former supervisor keeps contacting my current supervisor as a way to pressure me to publish my Master's thesis?

I'm all for publishing my own work of course. Since I have coursework and new projects during the semester I have temporarily put aside my manuscript and I have communicated with the former (Master's) ...
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What should you do when your supervisor suffers from Dunning Kruger effect?

My supervisor wants to borrow some ideas from another sub-discipline into his own sub-discipline. The problem is he is suffering from Dunning Kruger effect. He just has some very basic knowledge about ...
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What to do if a co-author is delaying announcement of results?

I am finishing writing a joint paper with a collaborator and we are both extremely excited about the results. However, we cannot agree on when to announce the results. In my opinion the paper is ...
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Is it a good idea to escalate if my masters advisor is incompetent?

I would like to know whether to escalate the issue when my masters thesis advisor is very careless, disorganized and does not provide anything useful to me. I have started with him around 9 months ...
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How to tell supervisor too many lengthy meetings are hurting your productivity?

My supervisor wants us to meet 3-5 times in a week with another PhD student of his. Every meeting is on average more than couple of hours. I don't know about the other student. But I feel like we are ...
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How should I deal with my groupmate's unprofessional behavior as a TA?

I have a colleague in my group who became TA for a course which we took together, which is taught by our mutual advisor. It is almost a policy that a student can't become TA unless he scores an A in ...
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Are academics more tolerant of biological and philosophical differences?

My internal model of academia is that (1) as a group we are one of the most tolerant of biological and philosophical differences (e.g., gender, sexual orientation, and religion) and (2) that we are ...
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How to respond to the trivialisation of one’s work and unjustified demands for a considerable extension of the research?

I am a graduate student in engineering whose work includes a lot of programming and implementation of the developed theories. I am not a computer scientist, but I am a fairly skilled programmer, at ...
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How to deal with an academic 'stalker'?

Several years ago, my colleagues and I attempted to get a small paper published, it was rejected and we ran out of time - and as it was a 'side-project' type of paper, we left it at that. We thought ...
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How to discuss job search with your advisor when your career plans differ from what your advisor wants you to do?

I'm on the job market this fall (will earn my Ph.D. this spring), and have culled a list of open positions I would like to apply for. I'd like to talk to my advisor about this soon in regards to ...
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What physical contact, if any, is acceptable between a supervisor and a student?

I was rather surprised that in this answer which suggests that a supervisor giving a side-hug to a research assistant is acceptable behaviour. I try and limit the physical contact with my students/...
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How to report on an academically required internship with a bad supervisor relationship

I am a few days from completion of an industrial internship that is required for my Masters degree. I have had a bad experience with the supervisor of this internship, who has insulted me several ...
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Dealing with emails that could be interpreted as being endorsed by you

Student A had an examination the other day for a course that he liked very much and by a professor that he admires. There were only 4 students in the course. After the examination he opened his email ...
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Why did my professor criticize my performance indirectly?

I'm an international graduate student studying theoretical physics in a US university, and I'm in my 4th year of PhD study and plan to graduate at the end of the 5th year. Yesterday, I heard something ...
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How to find help when writing a master's thesis

What methods could you recommend for attaining assistance when writing a master's thesis, in the particular case when one feels uncomfortable seeking any more help from the advisor, because of his own ...
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Advisor walked in while I was complaining about her; How can I minimize the damage to our relationship?

I work in a lab. This evening, thinking that my advisor had already left for the day, I started telling my peers in the lab that she has a bad attitude about a few things, and she was showing off a ...
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How to sign your email to students, so to avoid their immature behavior?

Or how would you like to be addressed? As a graduate TA, I went by my first name. But I thought that some students were becoming too friendly. They took things for granted (for example, asking for a ...
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How to manage your advisor's jealousy over your work?

Say you made a smart move in solving an important question that your advisor did not think of and all of a suddenly your advisor becomes jealous because you have made your advisor look bad. What are ...
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When is it appropriate for a PhD student to discuss personal problems affecting his productivity with his advisor?

I had a very difficult personal problem. My head was not in the right place, and outside of getting through my administrative duties, my brain just couldn't function the right way to run wet lab ...
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Learning Disabilities & Universities [duplicate]

I'm a student applying for my undergrad this year. The thing is i suffer from learning disabilities witch affect my spellings and mathematics and though it may seem normal its not. I wanted to know if ...
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Should I challenge my professor who thinks he's always right?

One of my professors has been in the IT development fields for over 40 years. He thinks he is up-to-date with all the latest research and technology. But I believe he's not. The problem is - he hates ...
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How to deal with a procrastinating (student) collaborator?

I am just beginning a research project with a fellow student. She is always 10-20 minutes late to scheduled meetings and has a very hard time making any sort of deadline. She freely admits that she is ...
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Will getting rejected from a graduate school affect my relationships with the faculty members at that school?

I recently got rejected from quite a few grad schools. Will this make it harder for the faculty at these schools to take me seriously if I interact with them? In particular, I'm interested in having ...
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How to deal with non-cooperative team mate?

I just started a research position coming from the industry. I am supposed to work on an ongoing project and branch it out to a new direction. There is one member of the research group that did quite ...
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How do academics reconcile simultaneously collaborating and competing with colleagues?

In many fields of academia, a professor must get grants to fund his research (e.g., medicine, biology). Early in academic career, a scientist can have naive expectations about how things work in ...

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