Questions tagged [interpersonal-issues]

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What to do if a co-author is delaying announcement of results?

I am finishing writing a joint paper with a collaborator and we are both extremely excited about the results. However, we cannot agree on when to announce the results. In my opinion the paper is ...
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Is it a good idea to escalate if my masters advisor is incompetent?

I would like to know whether to escalate the issue when my masters thesis advisor is very careless, disorganized and does not provide anything useful to me. I have started with him around 9 months ...
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How to tell supervisor too many lengthy meetings are hurting your productivity?

My supervisor wants us to meet 3-5 times in a week with another PhD student of his. Every meeting is on average more than couple of hours. I don't know about the other student. But I feel like we are ...
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How should I deal with my groupmate's unprofessional behavior as a TA?

I have a colleague in my group who became TA for a course which we took together, which is taught by our mutual advisor. It is almost a policy that a student can't become TA unless he scores an A in ...
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Are academics more tolerant of biological and philosophical differences?

My internal model of academia is that (1) as a group we are one of the most tolerant of biological and philosophical differences (e.g., gender, sexual orientation, and religion) and (2) that we are ...
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How to respond to the trivialisation of one’s work and unjustified demands for a considerable extension of the research?

I am a graduate student in engineering whose work includes a lot of programming and implementation of the developed theories. I am not a computer scientist, but I am a fairly skilled programmer, at ...
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How to deal with an academic 'stalker'?

Several years ago, my colleagues and I attempted to get a small paper published, it was rejected and we ran out of time - and as it was a 'side-project' type of paper, we left it at that. We thought ...
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How to discuss job search with your advisor when your career plans differ from what your advisor wants you to do?

I'm on the job market this fall (will earn my Ph.D. this spring), and have culled a list of open positions I would like to apply for. I'd like to talk to my advisor about this soon in regards to ...
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What physical contact, if any, is acceptable between a supervisor and a student?

I was rather surprised that in this answer which suggests that a supervisor giving a side-hug to a research assistant is acceptable behaviour. I try and limit the physical contact with my students/...
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How to report on an academically required internship with a bad supervisor relationship

I am a few days from completion of an industrial internship that is required for my Masters degree. I have had a bad experience with the supervisor of this internship, who has insulted me several ...
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Dealing with emails that could be interpreted as being endorsed by you

Student A had an examination the other day for a course that he liked very much and by a professor that he admires. There were only 4 students in the course. After the examination he opened his email ...
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Why did my professor criticize my performance indirectly?

I'm an international graduate student studying theoretical physics in a US university, and I'm in my 4th year of PhD study and plan to graduate at the end of the 5th year. Yesterday, I heard something ...
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How to find help when writing a master's thesis

What methods could you recommend for attaining assistance when writing a master's thesis, in the particular case when one feels uncomfortable seeking any more help from the advisor, because of his own ...
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Advisor walked in while I was complaining about her; How can I minimize the damage to our relationship?

I work in a lab. This evening, thinking that my advisor had already left for the day, I started telling my peers in the lab that she has a bad attitude about a few things, and she was showing off a ...
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How to sign your email to students, so to avoid their immature behavior?

Or how would you like to be addressed? As a graduate TA, I went by my first name. But I thought that some students were becoming too friendly. They took things for granted (for example, asking for a ...
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How to manage your advisor's jealousy over your work?

Say you made a smart move in solving an important question that your advisor did not think of and all of a suddenly your advisor becomes jealous because you have made your advisor look bad. What are ...
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When is it appropriate for a PhD student to discuss personal problems affecting his productivity with his advisor?

I had a very difficult personal problem. My head was not in the right place, and outside of getting through my administrative duties, my brain just couldn't function the right way to run wet lab ...
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Learning Disabilities & Universities [duplicate]

I'm a student applying for my undergrad this year. The thing is i suffer from learning disabilities witch affect my spellings and mathematics and though it may seem normal its not. I wanted to know if ...
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Should I challenge my professor who thinks he's always right?

One of my professors has been in the IT development fields for over 40 years. He thinks he is up-to-date with all the latest research and technology. But in reality, he's not. The problem is - he ...
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How to deal with a procrastinating (student) collaborator?

I am just beginning a research project with a fellow student. She is always 10-20 minutes late to scheduled meetings and has a very hard time making any sort of deadline. She freely admits that she is ...
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Will getting rejected from a graduate school affect my relationships with the faculty members at that school?

I recently got rejected from quite a few grad schools. Will this make it harder for the faculty at these schools to take me seriously if I interact with them? In particular, I'm interested in having ...
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How to deal with non-cooperative team mate?

I just started a research position coming from the industry. I am supposed to work on an ongoing project and branch it out to a new direction. There is one member of the research group that did quite ...
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How do academics reconcile simultaneously collaborating and competing with colleagues?

In many fields of academia, a professor must get grants to fund his research (e.g., medicine, biology). Early in academic career, a scientist can have naive expectations about how things work in ...
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How to respond to the teacher who puts the feet up while talking to student?

A friend of mine who is from Japan told me that his professor in USA puts the feet up while talking to him. He was saying that he felt very bad with that. Is this acceptable culture in USA academia?
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Are relationships allowed between students and faculty?

What sorts of restrictions do universities place on romantic or sexual relationships between faculty and graduate students, and what are the underlying issues that motivate these restrictions? For ...
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How common are romantic relationships between faculty and students?

Romantic relationships between faculty members and students are often depicted in movies or books, and the student falling in love with his/her professor seems to be a bit of a cliché. But how common ...
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How to deal with constant pressure given by advisor

I am a third-year PhD student in mathematics from a very reputed institute in my country. I have one problem to share and discuss that is related with my guide. He is a senior professor in our ...
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What are the primary causes of conflict between PhD advisors and their students?

Here's a very interesting analysis from a professor's point of view on the primary causes of conflict between PhD advisors and their students: In my experience, incompatible personalities account ...