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My co-authors want to remove my name from manuscript because I am “not in science anymore,” how to correct this?

Two years back, was working as an research associate then have to leave the lab due to some family issues. My work was significant enough to be included in the manuscript and I was told that my ...
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My advisor escalated things after not getting a coauthorship he did not deserve

I am a 3rd year PhD Student (Computer Science, India). I have two advisors, one internal and one external. The internal advisor has no knowledge of my area and he doesn’t care what I am doing. He has ...
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Personal Life Dealbreakers for Academic Jobs

There are certain academic jobs such as Baylor or BYU that require a certain way of life. BYU, for instance, requires one to adhere to the Church Educational System Honor Code and Baylor typically ...
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Good questions for a student-advisor compatibility test

There are online a good amount of tests aimed to assess "compatibility" between two persons in a given life or work commitment situation; for instance, between coworkers, roommates, lovers, dungeons'n'...
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How to deal with people judging your 'overproductiveness'?

I am in 4th year postdoc working in applied math areas in which 1-3 papers a year is considered a good publication rate. I have been publishing 10-13 papers a year for the last 4-5 years (have never ...
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Could not get along with any advisor, is it ego?

During my academic studies, I have always been ambitious in pursuing academic research with no luck. I have not gotten along with any of the professors whom I attempted to set up an advisor-advisee ...
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How to get past being tagged as overly curious and unfocussed?

I am in a reputed PhD Programme in Computer Science. In the prior part of my PhD I was focussed on applicative research but during the course of time I developed a keen interest in the theoretical ...
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May I reuse my own figure without coauthor's permission?

I'm writing an editorial and would like to use a figure that I published with a coauthor a few years ago. The copyright agreement (see #4) with the publisher allows the authors of the paper to reuse ...
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Dealing with intern supervisor who underestimates my abilities

I am an undergraduate student who got into a voluntary internship for a year in my department. Without going into much detail, I'm a trainee in the lab where programming lessons are held with lots of ...
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Recommendation letter from a supervisor after falling out

In the event of a falling out with a supervisor (Master's thesis or PhD) is there generally anything one can do about it if one wants to apply to a (different) PhD program, for which one would need a ...
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Do I need to request permission to cite a “personal communication” in a publication?

The title says it all I believe. Do I need to request permission from a colleague to cite their information as a "personal communication"? "Do I need to" may be a little restrictive, so I'll also ...
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Can a professor shout at a student? [closed]

Is there any possible penalty (from the educational institution) for the professor for disrespecting a student? What can and cannot do a professor in terms of respect to a student?
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As a postdoc, how to deal with supervisor who keeps trying to involve my student in other projects?

I would appreciate very much an advice on the case which I will describe after a short intro about myself. Such introduction is not really necessary for the matter of question, but I hope it can ...
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Supervisor announced he's going to present my work without asking permission, how can I get credited without damaging my career?

Short: My master thesis supervisor want to present my findings at a conference. He did not ask me for permission, just informed me he will do so, how should I react? Long: My supervisor early on said ...
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Is there a lack of oversight of how professors interact with students?

Why does there seem to be a lack of oversight when it comes to how professors interact with students? For example, consider the following questions: How to deal with an advisor who wants a "...
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What to do with an overtly exasperating colleague in computer science?

I am working on my undergraduate research project in an HPCC. Whoever does programming knows this is a "teach-yourself" skill. Everytime a problem arises, you search the wealth of tutorials and guides ...
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Department not giving me TAships after a dispute with professor, what should I do?

I got in a dispute with a professor I TA'd for, and now my department is not giving me TAships. What should I do? I am required to teach more classes in my department in order to satisfy a ...
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Prof's neurological health is declining rapidly. What can I (TA) do?

I'm a law student acting as a teaching assistant/fellow for a tenured and notable law professor. Between last year when I took the course myself and now when I am a TA/TF, his mental acuity and health ...
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How does the tenure process work [closed]

I am curious to know how the tenure granting process works in the US. How much weight is given to research, teaching, and service. I have heard that a lot depends on your relationship with your peers -...
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How to handle pressure from collaborators when life circumstances make it impossible to get work done?

I am looking for a bit of advice on how to handle the workload in a PhD while juggling several collaborative projects plus family pressures. I am in the final year of my PhD which, overall, has been ...
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How to disagree about author order when my advisor has been dismissive of such concerns in the past?

I'm being asked by my advisor to perform a specific scientific experiment that she conceived from start to finish on our apparatus over the next two months (which could easily become 3-4 months or ...
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How much non-thesis work should a GRA do, and how to let PI know if I think it's too much?

I am a PhD student, and am being asked to do increasing amounts of non-thesis work. Some of this is general lab paperwork and small extra projects, which I'm happy to do and expect to lead to ...
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How harmful is it for a PhD student to work with a supervisor whose ambition is greater or lesser than that of the student?

How harmful is it for a PhD student to work with a supervisor whose ambition is greater or lesser than that of the student? I can imagine that if the supervisor aims much higher than the PhD student ...
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What should I do if a professor says she doesn't understand my questions in office hours?

I am having difficulties in math, and every time I try to go to my math professor's office hours she always seems annoyed. When I ask her a question she always says something to the effect "I don't ...
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How to approach my supervisor when I've finished the task he assigned early?

Given that it's a very broad question I'll try to create some context: I'm in my first year (just started) and at the moment my task as PhD student is closer to learn the techniques and technologies ...
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My adviser is hesistant about letting me graduate. How should I handle it?

I have seen the work of previous and current students and I have done a lot more than them, and my dissertations is about 60% written already, however, my adviser seems to not be comfortable with the ...
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Trust issues with my PhD advisor, is it worth fixing or can I get out?

I am a math PhD student considering changing universities. I have suspicions that my supervisor has not been very honest with me since I told him that I considered changing universities (and therefore ...
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How to move forward following an unpleasant situation with colleagues?

I'm a recently hired assistant professor at a small teaching university. The department head has been successful in dramatically increasing student enrollment, such that our department is viewed ...
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What are some way to give praise to a professor without resorting to flattery?

In elementary school we are taught to give an apple to your teacher as a sign of appreciation. Obviously it doesn't work anymore in academia. I wish to maintain a relationship with a professor after ...
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As a postdoc, how to make sure I get credit for helping undergrad and grad students?

I am a postdoc, and I understand that my work involves assisting undergrads and grad students with their projects. But sometimes things go beyond mere helping into more like supervising and explaining ...
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How to tactfully request removal of my name from co-authorship?

I wrote a mathematics manuscript (see Extremely mild punishments for academic misconduct), and sent it to a professor, who then attempted to have it published after adding coauthors to the paper. His ...
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Dealing with a friend who always leans on me

I study Mathematics and Computer Science. I have a classmate who excessively depends on me when it comes to coursework . He wants me to explain definitions, proofs, share code, check his proofs and ...
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What can I do to prevent ethnic conflicts in research groups?

Many research groups are international. While I hope that academics are in general open-minded and tolerant, there might still be a potential for conflicts when researchers from different ethnic ...
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Conflicts with colleagues as a postdoc - reason enough to start looking for the next job?

I have recently started as a postdoc at a well-regarded foreign university. I like the place and I have no particular problems with my professor (even though his style isn't exactly to my taste, but I ...
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Can my degree be revoked if my relationship with my advisor sours post-defense?

I defended my thesis last year and was granted MS degree. After that my advisor pressurized me to work more with him and write papers. I refused after some time and my relationship with him became ...
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What to reply to your former supervisor that wrote that your paper “isn't worth much” before submission to a journal? [closed]

I am a recent Ph.D. graduate in computer science. In the last few months, I wrote a paper about an aspect of my thesis, with the collaboration of my former supervisor. We found a call for papers for a ...
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Having caused a lab accident, how to mend my relationships with fellow students?

I accidentally caused a fire in my department laboratory. The fire was not big, and luckily no one was injured. However, it triggered the fire alarm and sprinkler system, which led to some of the ...
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How to resolve disagreement with project teammates over which professor to work with?

I would like some advice about a conflict I am having in a graduate course taught by two professors. I am pursuing a masters (MS) degree in Finance and for the capstone course in the program, each ...
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How to deal with bad smelling (smoking) co-student

For a graduate project I need to work together with a fellow student who smokes a lot (every time we take a break); the smell is really strong and actually distracts from the work at times. Some days ...
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What to do if an audience member refuses to let you answer their question?

I was reading this question about famous people asking rude questions in talks, and it reminded me of a situation which happened at the end of my academic career. I would really like some advice on ...
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What to do about questions that are designed to embarrass the speaker?

I've attended a lot of seminars and lectures by now, and it's typical for the chair of the seminar to offer audience members a chance to ask questions of the speaker about their work after the ...
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High school student scooped by PhD student in the same lab

When I was in high school, I spent one of my summers working in a lab. The professor had a small lab, so I was given my own project, and made enough progress on it to publish a paper. While I was ...
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Should a postdoc talk about his depression with his mentor?

I am a postdoc in mathematics and I work in the US. Two months ago I was diagnosed with moderate depression. In retrospect, I can say that I must have starting suffering from it last spring, though I ...
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How can I make sure I'll get credit for my work when working with unwanted and untrusted collaborator?

I am taking a course with a major final project. I was looking for a topic when my co-advisor noticed this. He suggested that I do a project related to my master thesis, and I agreed since I didn't ...
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How do I express my disapproval of a marking boycott without damaging relationship with academics?

So as people have probably seen by now, the UK is stuck in a marking boycott, which has started to directly affect myself as a final year student. I have not personally been affected too much yet, ...
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How to comfortably interact with famous professors?

I know that they are "just as human as we are", but I feel somewhat uncomfortable to talk nonchalantly with the top-notch math researchers and professors in my department because of their social ...
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How should a teaching-assistant deal with an angry student?

This happened two semesters ago, when I was teaching-assistant to a class of bachelor students. The lecturer had such marking weights, 30% for teaching assistant class including all the homework and ...
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What do you do when your best friend cheats and has become top 10 in class of 250? [closed]

My very best friend cheats, not just looking over her shoulder for two answers, I mean full out cheats - raising each grade from what would be a D to an A. I feel very guilty for doing something wrong,...
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What to do when a former supervisor keeps contacting my current supervisor as a way to pressure me to publish my Master's thesis?

I'm all for publishing my own work of course. Since I have coursework and new projects during the semester I have temporarily put aside my manuscript and I have communicated with the former (Master's) ...
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What should you do when your supervisor suffers from Dunning Kruger effect?

My supervisor wants to borrow some ideas from another sub-discipline into his own sub-discipline. The problem is he is suffering from Dunning Kruger effect. He just has some very basic knowledge about ...