I've seen questions like this on the Stackexchange before, though I'm not sure which section (ie. superuser or stackoverflow). Anyways here goes.
I'm a sophomore CS major at a University. I'm taking an Advanced Data Structures course. On the first day I met a classmate and we agreed to work together on labs for the course. Three weeks later this spring we got our first assignment: Huffman coding. The professor said this lab won't be easy.
On the Tuesday it was assigned most if not all of the class was coordinating groups to work on the assignment. It came up that my partner (lets call him John) had lab at a different time than I, but another person (call him Frank) we were coordinating with could meet up at ten am some time that week. John has a friend in the class, and I'll name him Paul.
We managed to get in to group text messaging. By wednesday the others had decided to meet for lab at ten am, and I had sent a text message saying that I would show up at eleven.
When I did, there was nobody there. I texted them and they replied with a short message "We left".
I was very angry about this because I had missed my own lab time (8 am) for this, hadn't gotten to meet with them, and I was falling behind on the assignment.
I kept that to myself. I thought they were being genuine, but why they couldn't have stayed longer in a very difficult lab assignment eluded me.
Come saturday I was beginning to get quite agitated with the fact that they had met with each other to get help, and nobody had even talked to me.
At some point on January 30th I received a text message with this: "From: Anonymous. Message could not be received" I replied to the group after quickly researching the cause of that message, asking them to send it again because I didn't get it. No reply. Later I asked if anyone wanted to meet up on Sunday. Frank said he got off work in the afternoon.
And on Sunday, January 31st I asked if anyone wanted to meet up. Frank said he had a change of plans and couldn't make it. I proceeded to work on my stuff, and when I checked my messages I got something like this:
"I'm willing to collaborate with you and I don't think you're a bad guy, but I don't think we are a compatible group members. I told you I was busy because I had to attend my teammates funeral and I also have my best friend in town for the weekend because of it, and you've been hounding me (sic) about this. I really don't appreciate it. We are more than happy to collaborate with you but us three are officially going to be a group"
For the record, I never received word that John's teammate had passed. Not once. I got a message which was completely unreadable, but I hadn't heard a single thing about this from John.
What can I do about this? Some people I've talked to have commented that they are trying to lay the blame on me. What should I do? I am seriously upset about this.