I am having difficulties in math, and every time I try to go to my math professor's office hours she always seems annoyed. When I ask her a question she always says something to the effect "I don't understand what you are asking," I understand being precise with math but it's as if she purposely feigns confusion. I can ask a professor a math question in another one of my classes who barely speaks English and he seems to understand what I mean just fine. In short, this prof always talks down to me and is rude, I am struggling with the math, and am just trying my best to understand it. What should I do in this situation?

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    Try bilding up the question step by step. "I know x=y and z=q. You said we could use that to derive the value of k, via Gibble's theorem. I'm stuck on that step." In other words, help them help you by showing exactly where you got to and what you're having trouble with, just as you should here. To give you more specific advice we'd need to see a specific example of the question you're asking and how you're asking it... in other words, you need to help US help you.
    – keshlam
    Jan 30, 2015 at 1:37
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    Talk to the TA instead of the professor, this professor might just have a bad personality. If the TA can't understand either then you might have a problem. Jan 30, 2015 at 2:29
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    @keshlam that should be an answer by itself.
    – Davidmh
    Jan 30, 2015 at 8:36
  • Do any other students have the same experience with this prof? and I take it you don't have this experience with any other prof or TA?
    – smci
    Feb 18, 2015 at 12:52
  • Can you successfully get through the course by just interacting with the TA and ignoring the prof, or not?
    – smci
    Feb 18, 2015 at 13:02

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It's possible that your professor just doesn't want to help you: in that case, obviously, you need to find somebody else. Or it may be that she just has bad interpersonal skills and comes across as rude and patronizing when she's just trying to be efficient. In any case, I'll assume that she does want to help but genuinely can't understand your questions.

Most likely, it's because you're asking the "wrong" question. A common phenomenon is the so-called "X-Y problem", where you're asking about the wrong thing. For example, you've tried to solve an exercise but you couldn't do it. There are two basic possibilities: either you used the wrong method, or you used the right method but got stuck somewhere in the implementation. In the X-Y problem, you start asking detailed questions about how to fix your implementation of the method when, in fact, your problem is that you used the wrong method. There's a great post about recognizing and dealing with the X-Y problem on meta.stackexchange.com.

A related phenomenon is asking questions that only make sense to people who share a particular misunderstanding of some other topic. You don't understand X so, of course, you're asking about X. However, the root cause of this is probably that you don't understand Y. Because you don't understand Y, the way you think X works just doesn't make sense: your question only makes sense in the context of your misunderstanding of Y.

Random (and slightly silly) example. Suppose a student of automotive design notices that the tyres are black and the steering wheel is black, too. He decides that all wheels have to be black so there must be a reason for this and builds up some elaborate theory in his head about how black things rotate better or something. And then he sees that his friend's car has a beige steering wheel. The next day, the student goes to his professor and asks what mechanisms the friend's car uses to compensate for the deficiencies of its beige steering wheel. This question makes perfect sense to the student but is total nonsense to anybody else.

The solution is to work backwards through your assumptions with your professor, to try to find the step where you misunderstood.

Student. What mechanisms does my friend's car use to compensate for the deficiencies of its beige steering wheel?
Prof. Er... I don't understand your question.
Student. Well, cars need to have black steering wheels because they rotate better. My friend's car seems to steer fine so it must have some way of dealing with the bad rotation of its beige steering wheel.
Prof. Why do you think that black steering wheels rotate better? [Note that slight differences of phrasing in this question can make the professor seem much more or less sympathetic. "What makes you think that..." can come across as being annoyed, for example.]
Student. I'm not sure but maybe it's because [whatever]. But the tyres and the steering wheel are both black so there must be reason.
Prof. Actually, that's just a coincidence. The tyres are black because they add carbon to the rubber to make it stronger, and the steering wheel is black because the designer thinks it looks nice.
Student. Ohhhhhh. I get it, now.

It may be that your other professor is better at answering your questions because he's better at figuring out what the root cause of your misunderstanding is.


While I may be downvoted for this, you should also be aware of (the possibility of) your own subjective bias in regards to the gender of the professor. I noticed that you said the female professor was not helpful ("confused" and "annoyed") while you were much more generous to the male professor.

The analysis of RateMyProfessor (http://benschmidt.org/profGender/#) shows clear gendered variations between student ratings of professors along the lines of gender.

Using the keyword "confused" yields this chart:

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and "annoyed" also shows a much stronger bias towards female faculty:

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whereas the keyword "brilliant" shows that men are rated more highly for this attribute:

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while this data from Ben Schmidt is not peer reviewed, there are peer reviewed articles that also note this:

  • Centra, John A. and Noreen B. Gaubatz. "Is There Gender Bias in Student Evaluations of Teaching?" The Journal of Higher Education. Vol. 71, No. 1 (Jan. - Feb., 2000), pp. 17-33
  • Bennett, Sheila K. Student perceptions of and expectations for male and female instructors: Evidence relating to the question of gender bias in teaching evaluation. Journal of Educational Psychology, Vol 74(2), Apr 1982, 170-179. http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/0022-0663.74.2.170
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    I give you a +1 for this. Downvotes don't seem very plausible to me: numbers don't lie. (They can be a bit inscrutable at times, but they don't lie.) You make quite a compelling case. Feb 18, 2015 at 19:14
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    I leave it as an exercise to the reader to look at the gender differences between "rude" and "condescending" as well. The latter is particularly interesting as it's one area where some disciplines including math have or approach gender equity.
    – RoboKaren
    Feb 19, 2015 at 3:37
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    This answer seems like a flimsy excuse to talk about some (admittedly very interesting) research that is only tangentially related to the question and seems very unlikely to solve the OP's problem. The question strongly suggests that there is an actual difference between the female professor's response to questions and the male professor's response to questions, and that it is this difference that is causing the problem, rather than a difference in the OP's perceptions of the responses. (I am not denying that there may also be differences in perception caused by bias.) Mar 12, 2015 at 1:54
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    Problem with this sort of post is, you're asserting correlation is causation. That data could be interpreted two very different ways. You have presented one interpretation - that bias is responsible - and done nothing to support it. And further, it doesn't seem you actually answered the question, just commented upon its premise and perhaps insulted the OP.
    – user51101
    Jun 8, 2016 at 21:45
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    @WilliamKappler I do not see the word "causation" or any other related word in this post. The closest this post comes to such a notion is when they recommend the OP to be "aware of (their) own subjective bias", which could be rephrased as "aware of the possibility that they have a subjective bias", with which you would probably agree, I guess.
    – Did
    Jun 9, 2016 at 7:08

I think you should ask your question somewhere else first. Is it too obvious to suggest the math.stackexchange? If the question gets ripped to shreds for imprecision, you should rework it before asking that professor. If not, then she's just prickly and you might well choose not to pursue your relationship with her.

  • No, according to the OP the issue is not math. It's academic behavior.
    – smci
    Feb 18, 2015 at 12:53
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    I assume this answer is referring to the underlying mathematical questions and not to the question asked here. Feb 18, 2015 at 16:13

I suggest trying to figure out if the problem is with you, her, or merely the mixing of the two.

One of the other answers mentions TAs. That might be a good suggestion, but TAs rarely have the same sort of personality and outlook as professors. If you're concerned about this professor being rude and unhelpful and how to deal with that, it might not be helpful to talk to TAs. What you may want to do is seek out another professor, possibly one from a previous class you took, and ask them the same question.

I wouldn't mention anything about you feeling the professor is rude/unhelpful (unless you know this other instructor very well), but you could easily make up a story. Missed your professor's office hours, another student suggested them, felt you needed to hear it from someone else to understand it, whatever. Most of these probably wouldn't even be lies.

You should, however, definitely mention who your current professor is, and pay close attention to the non-verbal response. Usually the other faculty are aware of bad apples and, in my experience, make little effort to hide their feelings.

Once you've got their attention and agreement to give you a few minutes, ask the exact same question(s) the exact same way. If this instructor responds similarly, it might be the questions you're asking or how you're asking them. If the other instructor is helpful, it's possibly your professor at fault.

You could also draw on previous experience. Is this the first class you have had issues with? The first instructor to act this way? In my experience as an engineering student, I only encountered one person who was outright dismissive of questions and condescending as you seem to be experiencing. While of course it will vary with university and discipline, if you've experienced this a lot, it might also suggest it's the way you're approaching the interaction. If this is an outlier, the problem probably isn't with you.

Sometimes you just have to acknowledge there are bad teachers out there. They might very well not want to be teaching a class, or teaching a class at the level / in the subject they are. Or they might just be garbage at teaching. In that case, you have a few options.

  • Find someone else to ask. Many universities offer tutorial centers. Maybe as I suggested, another professor will help. Maybe the TAs are more useful.
  • Drop the class and take it with someone else.
  • Find a source of information you understand better. Youtube videos, websites, Math.SE / etc, even shop around for another textbook.

What isn't going to happen is that you make a bad teacher a good one. It's also not worth it to try to get some sort of revenge for being mistreated, at least at the mere degree of what you have described. Most universities do, however, offer ways for students to review professors at the end of the semester; use that, and let their superiors address it when the time for that comes.

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