I've been in engineering PhD for 6 months and now considering transferring to another university. The reason is not academic, but family -- I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We're both serious about this relationship and plan to get married. However if I keep doing my PhD in my current university, we'll be separated for many years
I am considering transferring my PhD to university closer to him. My questions are:
- Should I contact the potential future advisor first before telling my boss I'm leaving?
- When should I talk to current advisor and how (focus on my family reason?)
- Is it possible to get his letter of recommendation, or I'll screw up this relationship entirely?
- will it possible to transfer to an university better than my current one? (honestly getting to a higher place is not my purpose, believe or not, but around my BF's place are almost all very good universities (1 tier higher than my current one), which actually refused me when I applied them last time. So I'm very concerned if I could be able to enter them now)
One thing that comfort me is that because I work hard, my current advisor seems have good impression on me. But I don't know whether this will help. If anyone have any ideas, would you share your suggestion?