I asked professors for recommendation letters this past year for grad school applications. I got into one school, but I’ve decided to put off going due to the coronavirus (the program was going to be online). Also, secretly, I decided I should be pursuing a different path after a lot more reflection.

All of my professors I asked for letters, understandably, told me to let them know what I end up doing. I haven’t yet. Will they be pissed off if I tell them about my change of plans? Should I just not email at all?

I do feel bad having had them write letters that ultimately will not be used.

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    I think you should tell them, but that it really is not important. Jun 14, 2020 at 4:03
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If you find a productive path then the professors will be happy to know.

They probably don’t keep a list of reference leters with “got a job” or “not got a job”... At least I don’t...

Just nice to get an email from a student from 2, 5 or more years ago with an update.

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