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I tutored a student in math for two weeks to help her prepare for an exam. I expected her to inform me how the exam went, but she did not.

Is it appropriate to ask her how the exam went?

We are in Ireland.

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    What are you planning to say to her if it turns out it went badly? You might be embarrassing her. – Elizabeth Henning Jan 12 at 6:14
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    @ElizabethHenning, actually, I would want to follow up with a discussion about how "we" can make it better for the future. What needs to be done on her part and mine so that the outcomes improve. – Buffy Jan 12 at 14:55
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    Is it appropriate to ask a stackexchange user, in case that the conclusion of this question was to actually ask the student how it went, how the student did? – Nanne Jan 15 at 8:38
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    hahahhaa @Nanne, She did so so. – riemann Jan 15 at 9:24
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I expected her to inform me how the exam went

I'm not sure why you expected this. While it's certainly not unusual to follow up with a tutor (or thank them), it's not a requirement.

Is it appropriate to ask her how the exam went?

I see no reason why not.

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    Not a question about academia, but of general interpersonal interaction. It's good manners of the student to inform the tutor, but not outright bad manners not to do so. Many students are either thoughtless or worried about more imminent things. Whether or not to contact depends on rapport with the student. – Captain Emacs Jan 12 at 0:33
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    @CaptainEmacs True, but you only know it's not a question about academia because you already know it's not about academia. – corsiKa Jan 13 at 4:35
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    academia.stackexchange.com/help/on-topic specifially lists "requirements and expectations of students, postdocs, or professors," as an on-topic question. It's at least tangentially on-topic, IMO. – chepner Jan 13 at 17:17
  • You might also ask this in the context of how you can improve your tutoring. No matter how it went, you might following up with "is there anything I could have done to help you more?" – Flydog57 Jan 14 at 20:58
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As a tutor in undergrad, we were taught to ask "how did the exam go?" and not "what did you make on the exam?" The idea being that the tutee gets to project their feelings onto their score (some are happy with a 75) and gives them a way out ("ehh ok I guess").

It's implicit in these instructions that asking "how did the exam go?" is appropriate for the tutor.

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Well, the are two sides to the answer. It's either the exam went well or it didn't. If it didn't, I am not sure your tutee will be comfortable to tell you about it. Another thing is that your tutee may also expect you to ask how it went, to show you care. So it depends. Regardless though, it's not a bad thing to ask a student how the exam went.

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